@lovebrazil sad that this is a thing now but it is in this world

@Ghostinthemachine june cleaver agrees

@SW-User I'm glad you think that way

@SUPERVlXEN The idea is prevailing though, even about work (regardless of gender), since the idea got enough hearts. And it makes me feel, you don't want a parent at home?

@SW-User
I'm again not sure what to make of your last statement. I wish you a lovely day.

@SUPERVlXEN Well, the prevailing theme in this thread by the op and TheCarpenter, only those who work a lot are deserving. I resisted naming, thus the confusion. I used you in the royal sense.

@SW-User I think she's a fool who is too enchanted with 1950s nostalgia.
When men end up being the breadwinner we have too much power and control.
Like if I own the deed to a place and this is highly hypothetical not something I'd actually do they could be like hey I'm horny help a brother out and you'd be like "I have a headache and i'm not in the mood" and he could just be all "A mans home is his castle, the fuck am I even letting you live here for if you don't put out?"

Threatening to throw you on the streets. My dad was able to largely abuse his power against his kids with threats of expulsion in the present housing market where everything is unaffordable by default.

and to be clear in this situation since he can prove he owns the deed to the property if you call the police over it they'll just be like it's his house.

totally within his authority.

Suddenly you can't even say no or you'll be homeless.

That's why I believe those who cling to traditional values are self destructive fools.

They don't even realize what they're putting themselves in for.

I like it too when they have their own income because I mean if she can leave me whenever she wants the danger of that happening makes the fact that she doesn't all that much more validating.

Dating women is infinitely better on Hard mode.

@NCCindy It was the same for my husband and me.

@Keepitsimple Good question

My kids would have starved and been naked if I didn’t work when they were home. @nedkelly

@Penny Yes, I did it so I could return to work while my husband was a stay at home father. I earned more than he so the alternative was to take a significant drop in our living standards. Neither of us wanted that. He would agree that taking care of babies is no easy feat but he did it. What's more, I was able to come home to find the housework done and dinner nearly ready. :)

@Penny as others have pointed out milk can be stored. Furthermore, if not available, there is formula. My mum didn't produce breast milk. Which might explain why I like boobs.

@SW-User Expressing milk is where a woman milks herself so the milk can be stored and fed to the baby later.

@Yulianna about 200 years ago 😅

I work but I still believe that the man should be the primary income holder @rachelsj

@smiler2012 Stop ya bullshit - scousers have NEVER WORKED

@nedkelly lolol,

@nedkelly 😄 what ned is housebreaking and burgalry not a profession now

@solitaire Women should not try to do different things that men can do, because they can do things differently that men can't do.

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@ABCDEF7 I don't listen to Sathguru!

@solitaire Why?

@ninalanyon Why do you assume cave men never had morals??? I have absolutly no idea what he means by the cave comment? And anyway what does this little exchange have to do with morals.. It has everything to do with preferences.. Mens preferences and womans preferences.. What most men want and what most woman want..

@Adstar Another interpretation of the cave comment is that he thinks you have been living isolated from the world and the changes in ways of thinking about peoples roles in partnerships.

If @solitaire had said at the outset that she merely preferred men to be the primary income holders we would be having a different discussion because it would be a matter between her and her male partner. But she said should; that makes it everyone else's business too because making such a rule deprives others of autonomy.

@ninalanyon

Well then if that's the point he was making then why cant he state it as clearly as you have.. Surely it was not hard for you to state it as you have?


She was expressing a personal opinion, her desire.. Her opinion that something should be this way or that way is again a Personal opinion.. So when anyone says things should be this way or that way people can reply with well i think things should be another way.. People should not troll her with personal attacks or denigration..

Everyone here is here to express personal opinions.. No need to get all worked up over someone else's options.. Especially when it is only about peoples personal preferences in prospective life partners..

@Penny You can't have met many men. In my experience men are often better at housework than most women.

@Penny My husband was an excellent house-husband and full-time stay-at-home father. I'm sure he did a better job than I could have. It would have made no sense for me to give up a high paid career to stay at home and struggle financially on what he could earn.

@Caroline259 yes that would make sense

I think they should be well matched in all aspects @antonioioio

@hippyjoe1955
It's such a shame when one has to work for a relationship rather than simply just have the power of economic inequality, right? 🤦🏼‍♀️

@SUPERVlXEN I hope that makes more sense in your mind that it did on SW. If you have a point can you try to explain it a bit?

@PepsiColaP Huh?

@solitaire She's a man 😐

@SW-User

@SW-User Which interpretation of compromise are we talking? 🧐

He jiggles his cap then she dances for him, everyone knows that silly 😌@SW-User