What's a smooth way to start talking to a girl without making it weird?

Well, Stew it's all about expectations (yours not hers), moderation, and focus. You need to keep your expectations in realism and not drift into fantasy. Take things one step at a time, treat each step as a training exercise, and remember even if you crash and burn, you can pull lessons from your training practise for the next time. In other words, regardless of the outcome, there is no failure. So, properly set your expectations and match your behaviour accordingly.

It's easy to get caught up in the thrill of the introduction. Some glances back and forth, a casual hi, a competition smile. The potential is exciting and it's easy to confuse fantasy for reality. Do enjoy the thrill that comes from the introduction; it's fun. But, introductions don't go very far in relationship terms and they are literally easy-come, easy-go. So, moderate your feelings and favour balance.

There is a tendency to focus on that one girl who has caught your eye and put all your attention there... with her. Certainly, don't give up on her, but don't stop with her. Take a broad-based view of your environment (the gym) and apply "your training" across a wider range of opportunities all at once. If one, including your main focus, doesn't work out, you will have more percolating. It may seem a bit crass, but it's mostly a game of numbers. And if your main focus does work out, the practice you gain from working the field will come into use as you move the introduction into a relationship. So, keep your focus and expand beyond your spot in the centre.

Well, that's been me. I hope you have a good rest of your day and a strong gym workout.

My take? I think chatting women up inside a gym isn't the call. Nor is randomly messaging someone you don't know.
Don't forget. Women can approach men too. And they will if they're interested.
Plotting out 'strategies' puts an unnecessary pressure on something that should be pressure-free. Like finds like. Letting things happen organically, when it comes to relationships, is most definitely the better call.
So I personally wouldn't give any kind of "goal" a second thought. If it's meant to be then you'll end up talking some day and you can take it from there. And if you don't then you don't.
Good luck.

Baby steps. You’ve said, “Hi”. Next time there’s a “Hi”, tell her you never asked her name. When she tells you, say “Hi _____, I’m Stew. I wanted to ask your name, but I didn’t want to bother you. Anyway, it’s nice to see you again.

Then walk away. When you see her next, address her by name with a “Hi ____”. If she engages, hang in there and ask her if she’d like a coffee.

Basically, show interest but don’t overwhelm her.

I don't think I'd do it online though. Next time you see her at the gym, approach her. Tell her you'd like to get know her, maybe ask her for a chat over coffee or a walk. Don't overthink, just do.

Maybe she's just not into you? Remember this about relationships...

- For men, it's about "who will let me have sex with them?"
- For women, it's about "who will I let have sex with me?"

Why? Because traditionally men are conditioned to be the chasers, and women are conditioned to be the chased.

I have never had a woman make an approach to me with romantic intent, but if that happened and I could pick-up on those intentions (I'm terrible with flirting and body language, etc.) I would be very surprised/scared/anxious/suspicious and have a really hard time just 'accepting' it as anything legit.

You don't need to pursue relationships to be happy. Just think that's worth noting.

Be yourself. Dont try too hard. It is natural to feel insecure in unfamiliar territory! Women, I think, want sincerity above all and manliness - which is often confused as masculinity. You will learn the difference in time. If there is a connection between you, you will feel it and you don't need any advice, tips or tricks.

I think if you come in or leave together, make some small talk.

If you leave together, tell her you noticed her at the gym and were glad to see her, and ask if she'd like to grab a cup of coffee.

That will show what's up.

Firstly congratulations on all the work you've done on yourself. I can only speak for myself but self improvement is a very attractive trait because it shows that you have self control. As far as approaching women goes I think sending a message on Facebook is a good idea. Don't worry too much about looking like a creep,it will become a complex in your mind.

Firstly you need to shed your inferiority complex and gain confidence on your outlook which is the way you look at things. You will not progress if you keep worrying how you are being looked at

It doesn't matter if you are skinny or plumpy, but what matters is how your spirit is and how they feel in your company.

It's an online world. So don't be picky and waste time. Instead get to know as many and improve your ability to converse. That way you will be able to hold a conversation even when you run out of content.

Be secretive and don't believe in hearsay. When you get to know someone pretend as if you know nothing and let them say what they have to say. Don't say "I thought you were dating x" or have you broken up etc.. you focus on your relationship.

And instead of working on your physique, work more on your intellect and wit. Create versions of jokes to render in your own way. Making girls laugh is a great talent that many lack.

The problem arises when you aim for a specific girl, you really want them to like you for who you are but if they don't then you think maybe you can fake it and introduce her to yourself more gradually. I've found that it's much more efficient to just cast a wide net and eventually you stumble upon a girl that really likes you. It's easy

You don't have to be all that smooth. Just be yourself and talk to her. Yes, do send her a facebook message now.

Next time you see her at the gym, just ask her if she'd like to go out after the workout for coffee or a bite to eat. Her answer will let you know right away whether she would interested in you or not.

What have you got to lose? It takes courage but you will probably regret it if you don't try.

Do what I did. Get her drunk until her reasoning is askew and she lowers her standards.

Years later I’m married with kids. It’s a winner.😆

Find an irrelevant excuse to initiate a random conversation. Ask her about some sweat band on her wrist. If she knows the title of the song that's playing. Initiate something relaxed as a first step, smile and let her go on and then leave some space.

Tell her you love how soft her skin is when first talking to her, mention lotion and then on the spot ask her to marry you. Chicks love that.

Ask if she wants to join you for lunch.

Tell a joke

Just talk to them as you normally would anyone else.

When she comes to the gym, notice her. Say hello and do some small talk. Talk about the weather, or her shoes, or ask what she is working on today. You will know pretty fast if she is interested or a lesbian or something.

watch blue lock season 2 with her and use otoya's skills on her

Tread lightly . Be friendly but not overly friendly . Compliment a non sexual body part of hers (abs, shoulders ). Do it in person

'hi................here's my sw'

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