What's a smooth way to start talking to a girl without making it weird?
Hey everyone,
I'm reaching out to ask for some advice. I live in a pretty small village somewhere in Europe. Last summer, I spotted a beautiful girl at an event in our village. When the opportunity came, I didn’t hesitate and went to talk to her — we chatted for a bit, though it really only lasted a few minutes. My communication with girls wasn’t the best at the time (and honestly, it’s still not great when I’m talking to someone I really like), so it didn’t go anywhere. Later, I found out she had a boyfriend back then, so I didn’t dwell on it too much.
Since then, I’ve worked on myself — I used to be quite skinny, but that’s changed. I started working out, gained some weight and I’ve even received a few nice compliments from girls about my physique, which made me really happy.
I’ve seen this girl a few times since then at the gym I go to. Each time, it’s only been a quick “hi.” Maybe I’m just imagining things but during our first encounter at the gym, I noticed her looking at me multiple times - and I’m talking about glances that lasted several seconds, not just the usual quick looks.
I know her name and I’ve been thinking about messaging her on Facebook. The thing is, I’m not sure if it’s a good idea.
I have no clue if she’s currently in a relationship and if she is, I don’t want to come across as weird or end up wasting a potential opportunity. What would you suggest — how should I approach this?
I'm reaching out to ask for some advice. I live in a pretty small village somewhere in Europe. Last summer, I spotted a beautiful girl at an event in our village. When the opportunity came, I didn’t hesitate and went to talk to her — we chatted for a bit, though it really only lasted a few minutes. My communication with girls wasn’t the best at the time (and honestly, it’s still not great when I’m talking to someone I really like), so it didn’t go anywhere. Later, I found out she had a boyfriend back then, so I didn’t dwell on it too much.
Since then, I’ve worked on myself — I used to be quite skinny, but that’s changed. I started working out, gained some weight and I’ve even received a few nice compliments from girls about my physique, which made me really happy.
I’ve seen this girl a few times since then at the gym I go to. Each time, it’s only been a quick “hi.” Maybe I’m just imagining things but during our first encounter at the gym, I noticed her looking at me multiple times - and I’m talking about glances that lasted several seconds, not just the usual quick looks.
I know her name and I’ve been thinking about messaging her on Facebook. The thing is, I’m not sure if it’s a good idea.
I have no clue if she’s currently in a relationship and if she is, I don’t want to come across as weird or end up wasting a potential opportunity. What would you suggest — how should I approach this?
