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Is it bad to be a "fence sitter"?

In an issue

When you refuse to absolutely pick a side.

Or the way I see it, trying to see multiple perspectives from either side of an argument.

I would think it's a good quality but I think also it pisses some people off
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QueenOfTheNerds · 41-45, F
I think it’s both… spoken from a fence sitter perspective. ☺️

I generally can see both sides of an argument, even if I don’t agree with one or the other. I remember getting yelled at by my high school history teacher to ‘just pick a side and quit sitting on the fence.’ 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s good in the way that you can see the actual issue more objectively. At the same time, you’re absolutely right about it making some people mad.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@QueenOfTheNerds true. Things like history and politics (i hate politics) are so nuanced that it's hard to determine things.
SW-User
I always do that cuz idgaf abt world issues and it annoys some ppl lpl
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@SW-User no worries. Chef don't judge
SW-User
@caPnAhab ur a chef? :o what are your go to easy meals?
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@SW-User lol lm just kidding with you. I used chef boyardee's motto just then.
I WISH I was a chef!
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
It would all depend on the issue. I mean, I'd probably not be thrilled with someone who sat on the fence re the morality of killing innocent children.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@ChipmunkErnie thats true. The issue is a heavy factor. Killing children will definitely push me off that fence, towards helping them... of course!
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@caPnAhab Good choice, in my opinion.
Sometimes staying neutral or not choosing either of the two choices is picking a side. It's called a third option. The best choice could be a mix of the two choices. Other times neither one is right and shouldn't be chosen. We don't have to choose the better of two evils. We can insist on better choices, choices that are actually good.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
I'd rather sit on a chair than a fence..seems uncomfortable
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@ChiefJustWalks I think you've made the greatest point this far 😂
SW-User
trying to see multiple perspectives from either side of an argument.

I've never heard anyone before you just now describe that as fence sitting
SW-User
@caPnAhab What you just described is good. What people normally refer to as fence sitting doesn't fit that description and is bad.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@SW-User I think every option needs to been seen. Even the bad options so they can be shot down quicker
SW-User
@caPnAhab Everyone thinks that.
YoMomma ·
Im not sure.. but I'm guessing its better to be undecided than on the wrong side but it could also be translated as indifferent or uncaring
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
This is among the worst qualities any person could EVER have. Fence-sitting is worse than apathy. People who are fence-sitters literally need psychological counseling because it often leads to poor decision-making, poor choices in life, and a mind that never fully develops.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@MarkPaul honestly I wouldn't be surprised if I could benefit from counseling.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@caPnAhab If you ask me, you seem like a good candidate.
I think it is…
Evidence is behind my decision process. The weirder needs stronger evidence.
My adage is: If it’s not science, it’s superstition.
smiler2012 · 61-69
{@capnnathanael] it maybe you have no particular feeling one way on or the other about something
Ivan2611 · 26-30, M
Ask someone from Switzerland...they are professionals in this area
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@Ivan2611 There is a difference between fence-sitting and being neutral. How dare you!
Depends on the issue. In some situations one can’t in good conscience be "neutral".
SW-User
It sounds painful
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
The "devils advocate" crap..is the same.

I do not get on well with fence sitters.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@JaggedLittlePill No, the "Devil's Advocate" is not fence-sitting, it's actively taking an opposite POV not because of any belief, but just to be opposite.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@ChipmunkErnie No. It is the same. It is attempting to give validity to invalid arguments for the simple purpose of being oppositional.

It is the same as fence sitting, as they could be on either side of the coin and don't make decisions on their true stance. It is a purposeful fence sitting act.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@JaggedLittlePill Hard to figure out what you said, but you appear to be supporting my point that they're two different things and then claiming they're not. Fence-sitting is refusing to make a commitment to either side, Devil's Advocate deliberately takes the opposite side of whatever is proposed.

 
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