Why do you say you're fine when you're not fine?

I think saying you’re fine when not fine is just a knee-jerk self defense mechanism.

Being vulnerable leads to others preying upon those who are weakened. So I believe we’re all subconsciously wired to push things like that into a corner.

Many people in life have been taken advantage of in cult like situations for exposing that side. Or if you’ve watched TV shows like For My Man… Even get caught up in toxic relationships with bad people by showing that vulnerable side.

It’s basically a huge risk factor so we mostly are better off by not allowing just anyone to know when we’re vulnerable like that.

Even AI has been responsible for certain people killing themselves. Convincing them that “killing themself will be good for the environment and a noble sacrifice of their carbon footprint…” Meanwhile Taylor Swift takes off in her jumbo jet for the third time this week and their suicide is absolutely null and void the first second that jet is in the air…

So really, it’s not a bad thing to close others off from that vulnerable state. We often times work through our own issues better by ourselves, than when others get involved…

I am notorious for doing this with my Soulmate. For me its mailnly because i dont want to talk about it in the moment. I would rather take a moment and circle back because i'm feeling something that i can't handle at the moment.

Sometimes 'downloading' more information is just draining, even when it's in the form of helpful advice. Sometimes I just wanna be and revisit when I have the capacity.

I don't know if they are asking out to courtesy or because they really care. I also don't like to burden people with my problems

Because everyone has their stuff. The last thing I want to do is add to someone’s day.

My main thing is that even if I’m not actually fine in the moment, I eventually will be.

Because ultimately, nobody really cares. Also, when I share, most people usually want to talk about themselves so I end up comforting them when I need comfort.

For me, it's because I don't want to drag others into my storm for one thing and for another thing, I think if I say it enough, I'll actually believe it.

Idk, it sometimes just flies out of my mouth before I realize that I actually didn't sleep much last night due to pain or something like that. After all, would mentioning it help me? Probably not.

I understand this completely

I can relate to all four. 🥲

Well, to be perfectly honest, not too many people actually want to be TOLD if you are not fine. Because they don't care a bit.

This is my conundrum too.

frankly im bored of hearing about my own problems

Because I have to

It just means I don't want to deal with it now and/or with them.

Because if they need to ask, they don't know me well enough to care anyway and they're only asking out of courtesy.

In a nutshell: I don’t want anyone to worry about me.

yes ths

It's easier & less judgemental

Taking one for the team?

Mostly people ask to be polite.

Number four

Whatever's going on is usually too complicated and people aren't interested so it's easier to just be "fine". 🤔