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What type of personality/ feature, etc makes a man actually want to stay with a woman and commit?

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Innocent women. I want a wife, not someone that has been hopping from one dick to the next. Preferably a virgin, but not necessarily. I don’t want to be a hypocrite since I’ve already lost my virginity, although a bit later in life because I waited so long to lose it to my first girlfriend. I thought she was the one, and I really waited.

I’d easily commit to a lady who still has her purity. Again, it’s unrealistic at my age and it’d be hypocritical, but to answer your question I’d almost 100% commit to someone if I were her first. I would treat her like a princess and do everything for her. I’ll probably get hate comments for this, but that’s my best answer for this question.

The next big thing is just stability. She doesn’t need to be a virgin, but at least she has to able to stand on her own feet. I don’t want to be a “beta male supporter”, as described by some guys. A woman that spent her youth fucking around with countless men, and looking for some working guy to settle down with later on in life and expect to be completely taken care of. That’s foolish all around.
@Mamapolo2016 You’re right. And a smart woman will heed the warning.
Kasiyat · 36-40, F
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@bijouxbroussard I completely agree with you. A partner is going to change, get old, get sick, etc. So will the other partner. He'll get fat, lose hair, etc.
ABCDEF7 · M
Everyone has different preferences. I think empathy is one that most men would appreciate in their partner
I don't think there's a list of things.

I think:

Marry a grown-up, not a 30 yr old child.
Date long enough to learn if it's just words - or they mean it.
Be as reliable, loving, considerate, and steadfast as you expect them to be.
Don't look for a caregiver. Look for a partner.
Don't marry someone if you think searching their phone is a good way to check on fidelity.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Trust, honesty and respect.
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@OldMan70 Subservient? You're pathetic
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LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@OldMan70 why did it take me so long to see this comment
SW-User
It's different for everyone. One can give what some would feel is needed and then be entirely rejected. If you listen to yourself, and others, you find what your hearts needs as they are finding what they want as you are finding what you desire.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I believe two things: attitude and sense of humor. A good Attitude leads to good communication, passion, positivity, friendship, and open mindedness. The humor is especially helpful when things are rough.
invisiblewoman · 36-40, F
Whatever they say is a lie. Nothing makes them wanna commit.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@invisiblewoman You don't know me then.
LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@Nitedoc What makes you want to commit?
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@LoneGirl101 I like the mutual trust, respect and feeling of oneness with another. Best friends, you and me against the world vibes. That's just the beginning.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
I think compatibility is a key factor. Mutual love is good too. Then again, what do I know!?
jcg1230 · 41-45, M
For me, it's gotta be complete commitment on her part. Absolute devotion. Nothing less will do.
I'm a handful. I know that. But I do have my charms. If you want somebody boring, I'm not your guy. But if you want somebody capable of a great love who will turn that light on you, all you have to do is truly believe I am the greatest creature god and goddess ever made and they made me just for you.
I'm worth it.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
I asked my boyfriend: "She is empathic and sees you and is able to see all the things you do for her and that we all have different ways of expressing our love. She will always show efforts and that she cares about you and the relationship as a whole. To sum it up. Emotional maturity. That's what makes a man commit"
LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly That's sweet of your boyfriend, thank you.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@LoneGirl101 Yes he's the sweetest. He's very empathic and loving ❤️
UnderTheBridge · 51-55, M
depending on my mood. for most of the days, I will say a caring and considerate woman. on some days, I'll say might as well settle for one with big tits since all girls are the same :(
UnderTheBridge · 51-55, M
@Rose90 gross personality? why so?
@UnderTheBridge boobs are just physical
UnderTheBridge · 51-55, M
@Rose90 that's true. but there are times when I think all girls are just self centered and all have the same personality, and the thing that differentiate then is the physical traits.
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
Without exclusive commitment from her, nothing else will be the foundation for my own commitment, which would also be exclusive. Never gonna happen though. Seems like pretty-much everyone on the internet is too busy wanking with multiple whores like themselves, and proudly. Each to their own. Edit: not even whores. At least they charge!
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
She doesn't have to be perfect, just honest and vulnerable about herself. If I like someone I like them, it's whether they're ready that matters.

Fun and relaxed but able to take a commitment seriously. Kind and a bit out there, but that's me.
Ferric67 · M
Easiest put

Someone who synergistically works with me, helping me find the best version of me.
Vice versa, I should have a similar effect on her too...in that, I help her evolve into her best version.

Make sense?
DoubleRings · 51-55, F
lsome of these answers are appalling and frightening for any era but especially 2023
Kasiyat · 36-40, F
@DoubleRings so true I felt the same. And I stopped reading.
swirlie · 31-35, F
@DoubleRings
Where's your answer? I don't see one submitted here.
LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@DoubleRings Yeah, it gives hopelessness.
496sbc · 36-40, M
I been single all my life. So yeah as a guy id be really good to the lady because then my dream would be coming true
swirlie · 31-35, F
@496sbc
...but she wasn't talking about you, she was talking about herself and other women.
496sbc · 36-40, M
@swirlie and she was not talking about you either I just left a comment.
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SlaveEt · 36-40, F
Probably very similar character traits a woman looks for in a man: honesty, trustworthiness, honor, etc.
Jonjdw · 51-55, M
Of course this depends upon the guy. But I want trust. Trust in each other.
Lostpoet · M
Someone that's interesting, fun, and makes you laugh.
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
For me it’s easy. I love her and she and I have such a great connection.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
In my experience, the qualities they want in a woman will very, but the kind of men (life phase) who are long-term relationship oriented (different than guys who like to date/have a pattern of short term relationships) are the ones that aren’t scattered/confusing. They know themselves. They know what they want. They don’t play games. Everything else is a chaotic mess.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
She likes him as he is and is not demanding .
Tracos · 51-55, M
if she makes him feel good about himself
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LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@swirlie The question is in reference to women, the "personality/feature of the female"
swirlie · 31-35, F
@LoneGirl101
Okay, thanks for updating the intended meaning of your question.
BigBulge · 41-45, M
She puts out for my group of friends, she sucks, she swallows, she spreads her legs, on command, any time of the day or night. Oh. And, she cooks and cleans, too. And, she doesn't nag.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
I don´t think that there is an unique universal "feature".
Even for the same man that may change along his life experiences.
May be also on the kind of relationship he wants.
HumanEarth · F
They dont care how people think of them, very Independent, very tom boyish and to cook

Kinky in bed is a fun extra
Bumbles · 51-55, M
A flip switched when she made me a delicious lasagna. I saw the future, and it had lasagna in it.
Tarnished · 26-30, M
Having a large-chested personality.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Simple. He's demisexual.
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
F knows tbh.
DDonde · 31-35, M
Depends on the man.
swirlie · 31-35, F
There's no specific personality or feature at all that makes either a man or a woman want to stay together and commit. This is because as a species, humans are not naturally inclined through their DNA nor through their genetic coding, to desire life-long partners until the end of their existence here on earth.

Birds on the other hand such as Geese, have the concept of life-long partnership right within their DNA to find a mate of the opposite sex early in their adult lives, to then stay with that mate until one of them is dead, which in the case of Geese is over 20 years of natural longevity.

That is not the case for humans however. The concept of marriage is not a natural phenomenon within our DNA that magically comes to each of us as a function of Mother Nature, but instead is a societal expectation that was imposed upon global society since the inception of the Catholic religion over 2000 years ago.

The purpose of the Catholic church implementing the concept of marriage to all society was to prevent the spread of venereal disease (STD's) among the uneducated populations of the time.

The concept of marriage and it's life-long commitment to a member of the opposite sex was taught by the Clergy by using the 'fear of God' as their basis for 100% compliance to a couple's committed monogamy once they were married BY the church and of course, in the name of God. The fear of God was used to convince people that if they slept around outside their marriage, God would strike them dead, but only after their spouse got finished with them.
LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@swirlie Pretty much we weren't made to be monogamous...?
swirlie · 31-35, F
@LoneGirl101
That is correct. If humans relied on instinct like animals and birds do, we would be inclined to monogamy no different than geese are. But because humans have intuition instead of instinct, we now have freedom of choice. Animals acting on instinct do not have freedom of choice. This is because the animal brain is not capable of rational thought otherwise born of intuition, which is why geese and animals rely wholly on instinct to tell them what to do and when to do it.

This is not to say that humans do not require partnerships with the opposite sex, which is something we deduce through rational thought, but which is usually sexually inspired rational thought at best.

It is to say however, that monogamy does not come naturally for humans, whereas monogamy does come naturally for geese. Humans therefore have to consciously work at maintaining monogamous relationships, whereas geese don't consider any other option but monogamy.
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