What type of personality/ feature, etc makes a man actually want to stay with a woman and commit?
31-35, F
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swirlie · 31-35, F
There's no specific personality or feature at all that makes either a man or a woman want to stay together and commit. This is because as a species, humans are not naturally inclined through their DNA nor through their genetic coding, to desire life-long partners until the end of their existence here on earth.
Birds on the other hand such as Geese, have the concept of life-long partnership right within their DNA to find a mate of the opposite sex early in their adult lives, to then stay with that mate until one of them is dead, which in the case of Geese is over 20 years of natural longevity.
That is not the case for humans however. The concept of marriage is not a natural phenomenon within our DNA that magically comes to each of us as a function of Mother Nature, but instead is a societal expectation that was imposed upon global society since the inception of the Catholic religion over 2000 years ago.
The purpose of the Catholic church implementing the concept of marriage to all society was to prevent the spread of venereal disease (STD's) among the uneducated populations of the time.
The concept of marriage and it's life-long commitment to a member of the opposite sex was taught by the Clergy by using the 'fear of God' as their basis for 100% compliance to a couple's committed monogamy once they were married BY the church and of course, in the name of God. The fear of God was used to convince people that if they slept around outside their marriage, God would strike them dead, but only after their spouse got finished with them.
Birds on the other hand such as Geese, have the concept of life-long partnership right within their DNA to find a mate of the opposite sex early in their adult lives, to then stay with that mate until one of them is dead, which in the case of Geese is over 20 years of natural longevity.
That is not the case for humans however. The concept of marriage is not a natural phenomenon within our DNA that magically comes to each of us as a function of Mother Nature, but instead is a societal expectation that was imposed upon global society since the inception of the Catholic religion over 2000 years ago.
The purpose of the Catholic church implementing the concept of marriage to all society was to prevent the spread of venereal disease (STD's) among the uneducated populations of the time.
The concept of marriage and it's life-long commitment to a member of the opposite sex was taught by the Clergy by using the 'fear of God' as their basis for 100% compliance to a couple's committed monogamy once they were married BY the church and of course, in the name of God. The fear of God was used to convince people that if they slept around outside their marriage, God would strike them dead, but only after their spouse got finished with them.
LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F
@swirlie Pretty much we weren't made to be monogamous...?
swirlie · 31-35, F
@LoneGirl101
That is correct. If humans relied on instinct like animals and birds do, we would be inclined to monogamy no different than geese are. But because humans have intuition instead of instinct, we now have freedom of choice. Animals acting on instinct do not have freedom of choice. This is because the animal brain is not capable of rational thought otherwise born of intuition, which is why geese and animals rely wholly on instinct to tell them what to do and when to do it.
This is not to say that humans do not require partnerships with the opposite sex, which is something we deduce through rational thought, but which is usually sexually inspired rational thought at best.
It is to say however, that monogamy does not come naturally for humans, whereas monogamy does come naturally for geese. Humans therefore have to consciously work at maintaining monogamous relationships, whereas geese don't consider any other option but monogamy.
That is correct. If humans relied on instinct like animals and birds do, we would be inclined to monogamy no different than geese are. But because humans have intuition instead of instinct, we now have freedom of choice. Animals acting on instinct do not have freedom of choice. This is because the animal brain is not capable of rational thought otherwise born of intuition, which is why geese and animals rely wholly on instinct to tell them what to do and when to do it.
This is not to say that humans do not require partnerships with the opposite sex, which is something we deduce through rational thought, but which is usually sexually inspired rational thought at best.
It is to say however, that monogamy does not come naturally for humans, whereas monogamy does come naturally for geese. Humans therefore have to consciously work at maintaining monogamous relationships, whereas geese don't consider any other option but monogamy.