@StrawberryMilkshake I don't think he did I think all religions just interpret parts of what's real wrong. I'm well aware raising kids is hard I have a few lol
@StrawberryMilkshake well, many primate colonies do consist of a lead male and many females, they seem to exist just fine. I am not knocking monogamy, i have been married to the same woman for 53 years, never strayed physically from her, except on SW, which is totally virtual anyway, and arguably not cheating.
I believe the snow geese and only a few other species, yes some primates and humans, do pair/mate for life, but that is an exception in the animal kingdom.
In ancient times it was to prevent conflicts over women.
Incels are dangerous even in modern times; imagine how much more dangerous they would have been in a time where there were far less barriers to violence.
Three men have all the women in the tribe? Well the 30 incels will most likely end up murdering those three men, his children, and then divvying up the women amongst themselves for raping.
Nowadays there really isn't a good reason to not be polyamorous truth be told. There are complications sure but they can be worked around with any amount of persistence and thought.
@Rosiechick13 No I did not. Get deep to investigate .. "what is Sharing ?"...
And then ask yourself do we have the ability to share .. and by allowing ourselves to share what does the other get or consume of us .. and what do we get in return ?
It is then you would realise how we have been made as objects and how we objectify ourselves, without any objection.
Also compare yours to sharing a pizza or a bottle of beer ..
@Rosiechick13 Also I get what you mean .. and understand your expression, as traditionally we have been made to think of love of love & sex as exclusive to one person and you are saying you are not exclusive to any and that you are a shared resource.
But think of it this way and ask what is the difference between making love 100 times with one partner as against having one time sex with 100 partners ?
@Rosiechick13 [quote]if you all communicate everything openly. You just have to conduct yourself correctly[/quote] Yeah, I don't think enough people do that though... and the show Sister wife's even showed examples where they felt like they weren't getting enough time from the man.
Just to be clear, if everyone is open, honest, adults and happy, I got no problem with just about anything.
I've also secretly wondered if the one husband and one wife thing was party to try to make more family and have more kids, so that areas could create more soldiers in 15-20 years back in the days before guns. But it's stuck in certain religions.
@Viper That s actually a good thought and now I'm curious. I'm glad we communicate so openly and it's all smooth or at least mostly lol we are still couples
It's the marriage culture that sets precedence and forms the society which gets jealous of those engaging in polyamory. But naturally we are polysmourous beings who can love as many like how we can be friends with as many.
Social norms and conformity culture. Also, marriage culture in general. Marriage as we know it has a lot of roots in economics and property law. If a woman is only with one man, then that man knows the children are his to take care of. It's why even when men could take many wives at points in the past, women were not general allowed multiple husbands (in most Western cultures).
A long time ago, it was about what a man owned, and his family was in that classification.
Society has evolved quite a bit, but a lot of relationships are founded on the premise of owning each other. Honestly, I believe it is part of why breakups are usually so toxic.
Looking at this from an anthropological and human evolution viewpoint, monogamy has been the human reproduction strategy for at least 2 million years. This is because human children require so much care.
It also has a lot to do with the values and goals of the culture itself. Depending on the set up of the society, poly or monogamy might be more effective, thus, supported
Almost all human societies in human history have the concept of marriage between one man and one woman. This behavior evolved because it's the one that works best.
It's kinda archaic now but the norm served a benfeficial function in our less developed stages of society. The need and benefit for monogomy just isn't as relevant now for us as it was in the past and old norms die hard.
