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If someone really hurt you, would you want them back?

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
If I loved them, I would want them back, but that doesn’t mean I would take them back.

I was with a guy I’d love to crawl back to right this moment, but I have too much respect for myself to open up to more pain.
Eklipse · F
@AlchemyFox I think maybe then you should keep on respecting yourself while you can. In a way opening yourself to pain from the same person is kind of self harm to yourself.
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
@Eklipse definitely. I realized how willing he was to find that part of me and pluck at it until I fell apart. I don’t love easy, so I tried to heal us both, but not at the expense of my mental health while I’m raising my son 🖤
Eklipse · F
@AlchemyFox Yes. Nothing is worth your mental health. I'm sorry you went through that ordeal also. 😞🙏🌹
Lilymoon · F
I'd forgive once... after that it's game over. 🤷‍♀️
Eklipse · F
@Lilymoon give them the checkmate and the fork 🔱
Lilymoon · F
@Eklipse haha exactly ;)
agotamaniscalistic · 41-45, M
There is a lot of subjectivity in this. Who is hurting me? hurt in what sense :D In some sense I don't mind them hurting me but, yeah a bit of context could help.
Eklipse · F
@agotamaniscalistic I'm numb in actuality. I just think deeply and know deep down what I'd want it's just surreal and out of my league. Probably entirely my fault I'm in this mess too.
agotamaniscalistic · 41-45, M
@Eklipse Trust me, our emotions are the biggest strengths & weaknesses too. Dont be so hard on yourself. Most of us are wired to be that way and in a way, there is a lot of factors from the society & the environment around us, have contributed to making us wired that way.

You will get through this too. I am not patronizing you, but I am just being very honest. Time is the best healer.
Eklipse · F
@agotamaniscalistic I didn't find time to heal me. Just a way to accept without being offered a chance. Lifes cruel like that.
specman · 51-55, M
Depends on if I still love them
specman · 51-55, M
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@specman it started from humble beginnings...
I just liked the girl who started the post in the first place
Eklipse · F
@atlantic59 Eh????? 👀🤷‍♀️
Matt85 · 36-40, M
Maybe my first love.
Eklipse · F
@Matt85 Probably moved on long ago.....
Matt85 · 36-40, M
@Eklipse In all liklihood.
Eklipse · F
@Matt85 🔱
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
In the past I gave chance after chance because I honestly thought if there was love like they claimed all the bad would go away.


Today there are no second chances
Eklipse · F
@LilPrincess I had that concept too. I figured out I was in some kind of deluded dream or whatever.
BlueVeins · 22-25
Maybe I feel like I do, but generally no. Life is messy, and I hope they get the best of it.
Eklipse · F
@BlueVeins Lifes like a whirlpool sometimes
BlueVeins · 22-25
@Eklipse I originally read this as "get back at them" for some reason
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
No. They'd just stay special in my heart.
Eklipse · F
@MoonlightLullaby Haha. I see it got you thinking. Yea you're right. I guess I was thinking on one frequency. 🌹
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
@Eklipse

[quote] I guess I was thinking on one frequency. [/quote]
It's all good.....
happens to me all. the. damn. time😉🤭

Best wishes in your endeavors to slay the person who hurt you 🔱
However, I wish you peace in mind, heart and soul above anything else. 🪻🌿🍃
Eklipse · F
@MoonlightLullaby Ha ha 🤭 Thank you, sending all my good vibes back to you also 🙏🥰
Depends.

My bar is too low, if someone actually went lower than that, they can just kill themselves.
@Eklipse Most of the time, I move away from such people.

And I just wish some of them would die, it's not like I am going to kill them.
Eklipse · F
@NotSureAboutMyUserName I can't disagree with that argument. So much misery in the world.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@NotSureAboutMyUserName if wishes were horses you'd have them throw those riders
I have yeah , I think it's part of discourse when you love someone deeply , feelings of hurt will be felt more intensely also
Eklipse · F
@PepsiColaP So long as they stay away I feel nothing. But if they're back....it's going to be bahd. Very very bad.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
"really hurt" is pretty subjective. I don't know though. Maybe? I'm crazy like that so... :/
Eklipse · F
@assemblingaknob You're not crazy. Once crossed, you'll be crossed forever though. That's the biggest fear.
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Eklipse · F
@SW-User [i]lies they all say that[/i]
Magenta · F
Probably, if I loved them, but it would depend. It's nearly impossible to not hurt each other, it's part of being human.
Eklipse · F
@Magenta I still have feelings for the fool. He only deserves my wrath and anger but the heart wants what it wants?
Funlov · M
Never not me easy to forgive but not forget
Eklipse · F
@Funlov Just wish I had more support. I never felt so lonely before. Making serious choices about my health even less.
Funlov · M
@Eklipse yes must be so hard again you can make it and just you can do that believe in your self 🌹
Eklipse · F
@Funlov Thanks for the encouragement. Really need it right now. 🌹
ElRengo · 70-79, M
It would deppend more on the nature of the wound than in it´s magnitude.
Some few things are non negotiable never-come-back-from ones .
ElRengo · 70-79, M
@Eklipse
I understand you.
Even so I don´t think at all we live to learn.
There is some moderate wisdom in learning to live.
And regrets are not only "states of mind" same as experiences are not only past episodes.
And things fixed in the mind are nothing but potential.
As an example for my view of it....
What closed that old wound (wound, beyond the pains) was finding what love was and living it so many years after ending what was not. And not earlier.
Eklipse · F
@ElRengo You're right about that. You live to learn not die. Life's all about what you're able to leave behind for others to pick up.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
@Eklipse
" Life's all about what you're able to leave behind for others to pick up"
True
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Everybody hurts, it depends on the hurt, I guess.
Eklipse · F
@Justmeraeagain burns. Like fire.
SW-User
Nope .. but I’m a sucker for sorry’s
Eklipse · F
@SW-User I don't do sorry. I'll fork you till you beg 🔱 esp if it's not my fault.
akindheart · 61-69, F
No because that would be intentional and a huge red flag. I would consider it a character flaw that will only happen again.
Eklipse · F
@akindheart Can you even disguise some blunders as innocent mistakes to begin with?
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Eklipse tone of voice and using wrong words can be unintentional but would you lament over that????
Eklipse · F
@akindheart No. There are more serious things. If you lament over that you're on the wrong side of the track 👀
WillaKissing · 56-60
No and Hell no!
OnePatheticClown · 51-55, M
Nah. That memory of being hurt would remain there and it wouldn't be the same again.
Eklipse · F
@OnePatheticClown Especially if you can't make new ones with said person.
acpguy · C
Just long enough to beat the crap out of them.
Eklipse · F
@acpguy good point there.
SW-User
Depends on how they hurt me ..there are many ways
Eklipse · F
@SW-User Sure. Id trade physical with emotional any time though.
Woofles · 22-25, F
Probably not; the best thing to do is to think over their own situation, and what would have ked them to that. Then again, kinda difficult to hurt me lol
Eklipse · F
@Woofles I don't think I'd mind the china set. The smashing sound is liberating and some pain won't kill. Having your hits land nowhere are even worse.
Woofles · 22-25, F
@Eklipse but something so delicate and precious will be destroyed. Wouldent get out violence on something human shaped feel better then the cuts across your knuckles?
Eklipse · F
@Woofles They're not available so you make do with what you have. A few cuts won't kill. A lifetime worth of emotional damage is a lot more aggravating.
SW-User
Yes, then ghost them
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@SW-User I'm surrounded by ghosts. I must live in a haunted house
Eklipse · F
@SW-User good one.
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
No i wouldn't
Eklipse · F
@vetguy1991 I'm finding reason and emotions on two opposite spectrums. They don't agree with one another.
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
@Eklipse well if they hurt me ince they could do it again
Eklipse · F
@vetguy1991 There's that disadvantage. A pretty big one too.
IamLara · F
If it is you.
Yes 👍
Eklipse · F
@IamLara I don't recognise myself since a while.
SW-User
Depends but if they were remorseful and genuine Id allow them to redeem themselves in most cases
Eklipse · F
@SlippingAway I'd have to see them really try. Not always easy.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
..and when she didn't seem to like me , I had to start giving myself advice, and it just seemed to go from there
Eklipse · F
@atlantic59 I see 👀
SW-User
That’s a very tough decision 🤔 I’d have to weigh the pros and cons 🧐
Eklipse · F
@SW-User It's either the highway or hell itself. Unsure about the pros about it.
SW-User
@Eklipse noted 📝
Eklipse · F
@SW-User *sets it on fire* 🔥
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Hell no! I’ve had enough of that to last three life times. If I haven’t learnt my lesson yet, then I’d be pitiful.
Eklipse · F
@Carissimi Probably an eternity of it. Glad youve learnt from it 🌹
I even cut out my half siblings and dont speak to them anymore
Eklipse · F
@ExperienceDLT Yikes. Sometimes I get why one does that though.
@Eklipse i hate them if i seen them standing in the street in flames i wouldnt piss on them
Eklipse · F
@ExperienceDLT Sorry you got bitten so bad by them :/
Djac17 · 22-25, M
Hell naw. Also I'm not talking bout a gf, Im talking bout a family member. He's a real pos
Eklipse · F
@Djac17 I know people like that in my family. All they deserve is this :🔱
Torsten · 36-40, M
as in like a relationship type thing. What do you mean by want them back?
Eklipse · F
@Torsten its obvious. Take them back.
Chaoshead · 22-25, M
This happened to me and I did take them back.

It's worked out so far.
Eklipse · F
@Chaoshead Glad to hear it's worked for you 🌹
Ferric67 · M
Deliberate or incidental?
Eklipse · F
@Ferric67 Both.
Ferric67 · M
@Eklipse deliberate, absolutely not.
Incidental hurt would be more of a trending threat of occurring, therefore I would be more prepared for it....meaning, it's probably not for me (since they are liable to do it again).
If it was totally on accident, then that could totally be forgiven....and you can make amends and get over it
Eklipse · F
@Ferric67 I tend to agree with this. I'm not willing to forgive or close an eye easily though either.
No. They’re ugly now and I do not associate with ugly a$$ people
Eklipse · F
@TurtleEclipseOfTheHeart Yeah of course. Straight out of my nightmares without a doubt.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
It's the only way to prove one of us wrong
Eklipse · F
@rrraksamam Franky it's true
It would depend on what they did and why.
Eklipse · F
@Spoiledbrat Makes sense. Then the final bit. If you accept the version they come up with or not.
Tres13 · 51-55, M
If she gives good head,Yep
Eklipse · F
@Tres13 That's not fair you! 🔱
@Eklipse already been through that not ever letting anyone hurt me that way again
Eklipse · F
@ExperienceDLT Glad you look out for yourself 🌹
@Eklipse have too no one else would
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
No i couldn't. I dont miss it.
Arorin · M
Not in the same way
Eklipse · F
@Arorin yeah once you mess up you mess up for good
pdockal · 56-60, M
val70 · 51-55
Nope
Adamski24 · 41-45, M
Eklipse · F
@Adamski24 [i]guards![/i]
JohnOinger · 41-45, M
So what do you think of Jeffrey Dean Morgan & Would You Do Him
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
Nah.

I'd just want to hurt them back.
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
It depends.
How did they hurt me and do they want to resume the relationship.
Eklipse · F
@basilfawlty89 So youd negotiate if they said yes?
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
@Eklipse depends on how they hurt me.
Eklipse · F
@TheLordOfHell Jesus isn't preaching turning of the left cheek and endless forgiveness. Tch.
TheLordOfHell · 41-45
@Eklipse Nah dis be Jeebus 2.0. I'm all about that running from a wildfire

 
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