If someone really hurt you, would you want them back?

@ElRengo Sure. It's the point where you decide to negotiate though and sometimes you know you'll be doing a mistake but do it anyway.

@Rilyn
Perhaps my poor English conspire against my clarity, my fault.
Some few things, few but certain specific ones, are out of the scope of any imaginable negociation.
Not in the kind of relationship I would get or stay in.

@ElRengo If I'm not happy usually I just leave. There are some other cases in which I stay even if I'm not happy.

@Rilyn
Did it once, long ago and for decades.
I regret those long empty years.
But again, is not only on how I feel as regardless of what happens.
Not only the pain but the wound.
Not only my mind or my heart but the interactions.
With my partner and also as a team interacting with the world.

@ElRengo It's not worth to have a life times worth regrets. I think they are the most valuable lessons though.

@Rilyn
I understand you.
Even so I don´t think at all we live to learn.
There is some moderate wisdom in learning to live.
And regrets are not only "states of mind" same as experiences are not only past episodes.
And things fixed in the mind are nothing but potential.
As an example for my view of it....
What closed that old wound (wound, beyond the pains) was finding what love was and living it so many years after ending what was not. And not earlier.

@ElRengo You're right about that. You live to learn not die. Life's all about what you're able to leave behind for others to pick up.

@Rilyn
" Life's all about what you're able to leave behind for others to pick up"
True