Why Do Most Women Think, their past (i.e their sexual history) doesn’t/shouldnt matter to the man they are currently Dating?

It’s a girl, not a used car. You don’t need a service record.

Why? Should I form an opinion on you solely based on your dating history?

Or how about everyone stops being so judgmental regardless?

The past does matter, regardless whether you agree or not. Every single past sexual encounter matters because every single sexual activity increases the risk of STD/STI for the new partner and as a new partner, I want to know what kind of risk I am exposing myself with that person.

But that past is just as important for women as it is for men. It is not the sole prerogative of men to know how many partners their sexual partner had in the past but it is a 2-way street.

Health is a concern for all sexual partners and not only for one single gender as the question suggests.

Do most men think all the women they date should be virgins? Pretty unrealistic.When men become judgemental about women's sexual history they could miss out on a great relationship.Also throwing stones in glass houses springs to mind.

I think there needs to be more context really. There are definitely things to disclose, such as if you have an STD, did or do sex work, had sex with someone who is a mutual acquaintance, and probably other specific examples, but for the most part, personally I don't see why it would matter to the guy I may date that 2 years before I met him I gave a blowjob to a guy named Greg in a JC penny dressing room...for example

Unless an STD, it is their own business, just like your history.

If it matters so much to you, you may benefit from therapy.

Not a grand eternal truth--my opinion only: If the past is an agreed upon subject for both to disclose, then okay. But make sure you don't out outdo him on the details. Save that for revealing your fantasies. Or better still, tell your past as though they were all fantasies. You'll get the self-satisfying feeling of "coming clean" and he will be thinking what a fertile mind his wife has.

Why do you think it should matter? Just curious and want to hear your perspective. Not trying to attack.

I'm not a woman - believe it or not - but why should either partner's sexual history be of any relevance whatsoever to their current relationship? This is the 21st Century, isn't it? Women have been enfranchised in the UK for a whole century now.

Because I couldn’t control the abuse I was subjected to as a child.

It does matter. My wife had been sexually abused by her older brotger for six years. She suppressed it. A couple years into the marriage after a miscarriage she totally fell apart. Had to be hospitalized. Had to go on antipsychotic medications. Eventually we had a son but psychologists were concerned that she might abuse him so she left us. Yeah, it matters.

[@silentobzerver ] 🤔well woman could say exactly the same about mens previous conquests 🤷‍♂️why does iy matter either way so much it is the here and now what has gone before has gone

Why you buy a steak from a butcher, do you ask for information about the cow it came from? No! Take it home and eat it!

Why should it?

What we do with other people doesn't matter. I've probably slept with at least 1,500-2,000 people but that shouldn't mean anything to anyone except me

Because they're ashamed of their disgusting behavior and don't want to be reminded of the gang bangs and what they did for money.

because the past is past and the future is now. (BOOM! Joe Dirt reference). Any valid reason that it should matter?

It doesn't matter

Why would it? You chose her of your own free will… That seems counterintuitive.

Why do most men think it does matter?

I think most women will talk about it if the guy is insecure. Otherwise its nobodys business.

Only if it has an echo

They don't. They think women should be held to the same standards as men when it comes to body count.

Because such a question that you have asked by itself is absurd in the first place.

Because Who TF you are to ask or know ?

And Why TF should you know?

Why should they? Barring something like an STD it doesn't really matter.

Because we're on the wrong side of the sexual revolution to bother with things like that

Maybe because they blindly assume the men will judge them for it and not want to deal with them, anything serious though needs to be mentioned no matter who the person is

I have 3 internet friends who have body counts in the thousands . I've only met with one in person. They're all nice people who have mental issues. They were all gorgeous, but they had a problem. The most gorgeous was from Portland. She was around 40 and drop dead gorgeous. She begged me to post her naked pics on the Internet, so she could read the compliments. She was very upfront about her past, but I didn't care. I gave her the nick "Portland Storm," and posted her pics. She was infamous. She was too far away to meet, but I would have liked to meet her. She was a serial cheater. It cost her her husband, kids and family. She was a nymphomaniac. She sent me pics of her at Club Sesso. It was a swinger club owned by Ron Jeremy. She went there to be in a tempting situation. Her goal was to go ONE day without fucking a stranger. She did it. She was so proud. I don't like what happened to her family, but I liked how she owned her bad behavior.