Is it inappropriate to wear shorts at a funeral?

So very inappropriate

I've never kissed a smoker and I will never have a smoker boyfriend. I'll check your stories, it is great that you still post them at your age :)

The funeral is about the survivors and you are one of the survivors .... there is much to be said about respecting your mother, your aunt, and others ..... but you also need to respect yourself ..... and show that respect in what you chose to wear .... Sometimes it's alright to be less comfortable yourself so that others are themselves ..... consider it and do what you think you should ....

Not appropriate. This country has a tradition of dressing children in shorts and adults in dresses and pants. There is a dignity that comes with dressing up. This isn't a celebratory day, a sun day, a picnic or otherwise. Respect the generation and wishes of the mourners. You get the rest of your whole life to do what you want.

enellie - Absolutely correct on assuming your country of origin. Sorry for that. When I refer to "child," I mean more like 3-11.

No matter what, focus on the service and be of what help you can to others. Sorry for your loss. If your aunt's life is celebrated, it really doesn't matter what you're wearing in the end.

I've never tried it. I hate the smell.

The funeral was today, I wore my dark gray skirt, it goes just above my knees, my mother also agreed that it was nice and appropriate.
I saw 2 girls in shorts, one had bermuda style abive the knee but the other had short shorts leaving her thighs naked.

@Oconnor: No problem. I agree that I shouldn't be dressed at 16 like a 10 or 11 year-old. (Although now I read from some kids that they are kept in shorts even at 16 or 17 all year). I told mom that I plan to wear my skirt and she says that is appropriate.

I liked her, she was a nice person, just we weren't close to each other. She was a chain-smoker. Knowing that her father (my grandfather) died at 45 from lung cancer after having chain smoked for 30 years.

Glad it's over and you should be proud of what you wore ..... Helping others like your mom through the difficult time is often what the service is all about ..... I am sure your mother will be missing her first quite some time ....

Whether appropriate or not, please respect your mother's wishes. As someone said, she is upset enough, and needs no further stress or conflict. It would be the most mature and gracious thing to do.

I agree with everyone it's no big deal but be the bigger more mature person on this and bow to the pressure of your seniors, you can feel smug about how mature you are (but hide it)

I have been to funerals in shorts or mini skirts several times as I always wear them. Why would it be inappropriate?
Do you plan to wear tights or you go with bare legs?

Anywayz.... I'm hoping you will continue posting more stories here, as SW needs intelligent contributors in these early days :) For example, you can see my stories by clicking my profile pic.

PERSONALLY I CANNOT SEE WHAT THE ISSUE IS BUT FOR WHAT IT IS PERHAPS JUST PUT ON LONG BLACK TROUSERS FOR THE FUNERAL AS YOUR MAM WILL BE UPSET ENOUGH BEFORE THE FUNERAL WITHOUT THIS ON TOP

im sorry for your aunt.
try to wear a dress but be careful, try to cover yourself as much as possible because its a funeral, not a fashion show. dont wear bright colours. wear something dark.

Thank you all for your answers. I think it might be better if I go for a skirt, I have a dark grey one, it is not a mini skirt, it goes above my knees.

Did you like her? Did she smoke alot? It's sad that people know that smoking can kill them, but do it anyway, huh? Like they have a death wish or something.

@Nellie My friend Cinnamon was right in saying that you did the right thing. :) I'm glad the funeral went well, but saddened that she died so young. :( Were you close?

cinnamon yes I think it was the right thing. It was a normal funeral, she wasn't very close to me but of course I felt sorry for her and her children. She was only 45.

@hippyjoe: I really dislike skirts.
@lornagalma: I plan to go with bare legs, I don't really like the feeling of tights. Did you wear black tights?

enellie I think you did the right thing, even if it was just to be good to your mother. I hope it was a "good" funeral...

@Cinnamon: Lol, I really won't mind if anybody comes to my funeral in shorts, in hotpants or naked. I will be dead by then.

Ahh, I see. So you've sworn off smoking completely, I would hope? They don't call them "cancer sticks" for nothing.

I'm glad to know you liked her. :) You're saying that she died the same age as her father did, and from the same thing???

The funeral is not about you, it is about the deceased. Is it too much to ask today's generation to show respect for a couple of hours?

what is inappropriate about shorts is that there is no reason to cause further upset to your mother over what you are wearing.

But when you write your will, you can put in there "and when you come to my funeral, wear whatever you feel like!" :D

I've beenbto more funerals then weddings , they get to be a bit overwhelming . . .a show for the ego if you ask me,sorry for your lost

@Oconnor: You don't know which country I am from. And I am not an adult yet.

But I agree, as I said before, I will wear a skirt.

It's okay. People will be happy that you attended. Just be respectful while you're there. ((Hugs))

Even if it was appropriate this is one time you oughta respect your mum and dress so she'll be comfortable.

@enellie16 hmmmm is your cousin on here? I'd like to meet him before I "take care of him" lol

Yeah just wear a skirt if you dont want to wear something short. Wearing shorts would not be right for a funeral.

@Cinnamon:lol I will, but I haven't seen anything inappropriate yet.

Me, too! The smell gets all over everything... and have you ever kissed a smoker?

@Cinnamon: You are welcome! Just take care of my cousin (if he's still alive)!

We weren't too close, we met 2-3 times a year. She smoked and got cancer.

enellie16 k if u die before me for some reason I'ma come to your funeral naked ;)

@Cinnamon: I don't think he's on here. But who knows?

@enellie if you get suspicious he is here let me know :D

Same age but different type of cancer. But both from smoking.

Out of respect for the deceased, wear appropriate attire.

Wear a skirt. Same effect but more respect.

Why inappropriate, is it religion?

Listen to Mom. A good rule in life.

Very inappropriate

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