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It's my birthday today, and it's my 40th.

I'm on holiday, in Spain with my 14 year old daughter. I bought a cake and candles as I want to blow candles on my cake. But my daughter is refusing to at least be involved in it. I feel I've been ignored and felt like I am nobody. I'm trying to ignore it, but she is the way she is because of her dad tolerating her behaviour.

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jackjones68 · M Best Comment

Happy belated 40th birthday
i hope you had a great time in Spain

HotPizza71 · 51-55, M

Gotta love the way a teen in a mood can bring a happy situation down to there grumpy self centred levels ..they'll soon grow out if it..I now..I've got three teens of my own!
Make yourself in the future have a pamper day all by yourself

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HotPizza71 · 51-55, M

@helenS yes..boys do take a lil bit longer to mature. It's because they don't have the young girls bodies to worry about..boobs growing,peer pressure, periods. Guys have it much easier..all there lives!!!

helenS · 36-40, F

@HotPizza71 Anyway I found mature men more interesting and attractive even as a teen girl.
My daughter wasn't interested in anything but playing classical guitar as a 14-year old.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@HotPizza71 Thank you for this awesome reply. It feels better to know that there is hope.💝

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Happy birthday. Why is your daughter not wanting to celebrate your birthday?

helenS · 36-40, F

I'll be 40 in just a year and a half...
Happy Birthdayyyy to You!!! 🥳

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helenS · 36-40, F

@OverTheHill 38 1/2 but thaaank you!!! 🌷

OverTheHill · 61-69, M

@helenS OOOPS! 🤡

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@helenS Thank you.
Enjoy your time being 30's!

Jeephikelove · 51-55, F

Happy Birthday!!! 🥳 🎂🎈
Should have left her at home with a babysitter then. 😉 She has no idea how lucky she is to have a cool mom who takes her traveling.

Samek · 36-40, M

@Jeephikelove Yes, I concur with all of this message!

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@Jeephikelove I know, I could have just went for a holiday on my own.🤣

Jeephikelove · 51-55, F

@Bittersweet84 next time!

HappyCamper74 · M

Firstly, Happy Birthday 🎂 to you!!! It's your 40th birthday, a huge milestone! 👸You should be celebrated! 🥳
Secondly, your bratty 14 y/o should be ashamed of herself for treating you this way. Here u have taken her on a lovely vacation and I'm sure you provide for her every need and most of her wants.
She sounds llike an ungrateful little "B"!😡 I know what I'd fo if she were mine, but that's another topic.

Best wishes to you on your 40th birthday!

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@HappyCamper74 It's true. She's very ungreatful. The reason why I'm so upset is because she's the way she is, because her dad tolerated her behaviour to become the way she is, now.
I work my really hard to provide for her needs, but all I get is so much disrespectful attitudes all the time. It makes me cry all the time.

HappyCamper74 · M

@Bittersweet84 I'm so sorry that she treats you that way. You're the mother though. If she makes you that unhappy send her to live with her day. Do not tolerate her disrespect.

matthewjames · 18-21, M

your old but happy birthday too

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Sapio · 51-55, M

Happy 40th birthday to you!🎈🎈🎈🎂

I hope you have an amazing day!

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@Sapio Thank you so much.

exexec · 70-79, C

Happy Birthday, Kid! I can't remember that far back.

SW-User

Happy birthday 🎉🎊

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@SW-User Thank you💖

SW-User

@Bittersweet84 your welcome

Teslin · M

Happy 40th you youngin' !! Enjoy your day.

scott157 · 41-45, M

Well happy birthday I hope you had a great day

SWUser193 · 22-25, F

Happy birthday! 🎉 I won't tell you how to discipline your child if you feel that she should be. But, I will tell you that you deserve better on your special day. Maybe you should tell her how you feel when she's disrespectful to you. I know you love her nonetheless, though.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@SWUser193 Everything I say to her is apparently wrong.

Shallowaters · 36-40, M

Many happy returns of the day

Secretsmile · 51-55, F

Happy birthday!! 🎈🎈🎈💐🍰

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

Happy birthday!

SteelHands · 61-69, M

I'm always wrong but I always explain how I think anyway. Okay here it is.

Blaming someone else for conduct that you dislike sounds like you aren't giving her credit for doing her own thinking and her father credit for shaping her mind.

Way too much credit for her dad but worse, a fairly low opinion of your own daughter.

mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

🥳🎀Happy Birthday🎊✨️ I hope you have an amazing, fun time in Spain💕
(Please don't take your daughters attitude personally, kids are growing and hormonal, im sure she loves you.. if she doesnt want to be around the others have a private convo w her in the room and then leave her and sing w the others.🤗❤️)

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@mooncrest02 Thank you, I tried so hard to ignore her.

Colonelmustardseed · 36-40

I hope things improve. 😔 Maybe it’s just teen phase stuff; being aloof to their parents.
I hope you have a lovely birthday anyway.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@Colonelmustardseed I know, I'm trying to understand as much as I can.😢 But sometimes, it made me cry.

Colonelmustardseed · 36-40

@Bittersweet84 It’s an opportunity to show her that, even if she’s ever alone on her own birthday, she can still enjoy the day. 🧡

HumanEarth · F

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Aysel · F

Happy birthday! At the age of 14, she is probably at a phase where my parents are “embarrassing” and may be feeling a little bit moody, who knows, but I wouldn't take it personally. Simply relish your time spent together.

OverTheHill · 61-69, M

Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday dear Bittersweet84. Haaapppy Birrrthday to YOU! (and many more). 🎂🎉🎊

Enjoy your 40's!

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

When she ask for a birthday present, just laugh and dance a Spanish dance.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@JoyfulSilence I will do that, for sure. I will not even mention her 15th birthday this year.😮

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

@Bittersweet84

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l No quinceanera !

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@JoyfulSilence Exactly 😂

Midlifemale · 61-69, M

Hello and Happy Birthday ?
So sorry for what you are going through.
I'd love to chat ?
Can you PM me ?

SUPERVlXEN · F

Happy 40's... Funny one, I found it on a 40's playlist 😅

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Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@SUPERVlXEN Thank you darling.💝

SUPERVlXEN · F

@Bittersweet84
You're welcome, enjoy YOUR day!

Samek · 36-40, M

Happy Birthday! Teenagers will be difficult. Just do what makes you happy :D

Northerner · 70-79, M

Happy Birthday. I hope it was a good one.😁

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

Happy Birthday to you, and many more to come!🎁🎂💐

Rambler · 61-69, M

Happy birthday wishes and many more to come

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

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฿łⱤ₮ⱧĐ₳Ɏ!
🎈🎈
🎂

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

Happy Birthday!!

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

@Quimliqer Thank you so much.💕

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Happy 40th birthday! Just celebrate with yourself if you need to. Indulge a bit. Take yourself out for a nice meal.

Sorry to hear your daughter is being pestilent. What makes her not way to enjoy the day with you?