Do you want me to see you as my equal or as a woman

If you dont see treating a woman as a woman involves treating her as an equal, you're the one with the problem, buddy

If you reread this you will see that you can!t see a woman AND an equal. Why is that?

Equal doesn't mean "the same."

50 pennies and. a half dollar are equal but they're not the same.

Never in my working life did I ask for special treatment or even imply I deserved different treatment due to my gender. I have seen a few other women do it, but not many, and I have seen men do it, too. A boss who just got chewed out by HIS boss over something that did not include you comes back and reads you the riot act because he feels his job was threatened. He may or may not apologize later, and his reason may be "that's just how men react. Anger, not tears."

Either way somebody is getting treated badly through no fault of their own.

Can you be more specific about how women want respect one day and special treatment the next?

An equal, and a woman, are the same thing.

Equal does not mean that women can be handled the same way a man can. The physiological differences btw the sexes demonstrate just that. She shouldn’t have spit on that man- who does that!?! People should be treated equally, but there will be considerations made to be sensitive to someone’s race, religion, sex and sexuality. Everyone is different, but should be treated equally. Equal means civil, political and social equality that allows women to have the same status, rights and opportunities as men.

Maybe on those hard days she was really asking for you to be more sensitive to your differences because she’s a woman and doesn’t know some of the things you know or do some of the things you can do. Maybe some dude made her feel unequal and she wants you to listen as her partner and not just her equal. Does not make her unequal in her status as a human, just makes her different. If we make the meaning of equal literal, then she would be treating you like a woman so we know that’s not right.

As a woman, both. I want you to know that I can be just as strong as you are, and that I can defend myself in most situations. (Albeit verbal, mental, etc.) I can support myself, and I'm just as capable as you. I don't always need you to step in and help me.

But I also need you to be my rock, and have my back when I need you to. When I come home and feel beaten down by the day, I need you to be sensitive, treat me like a woman, and help me remember my worth. I need you to be my soft place to fall, and my biggest fan in moments of hopelessness. Hope this helps to give you some insight. I don't know how he does it, but my husband seems to know just the right times to treat me like a lady and be sensitive, and when I just need him to hug me and tell me to go sit down while he makes dinner.

When all is said and done, all people are unique. You might meet a man or a woman who doesn't know how to change their own tire. You might meet a man or a woman who really enjoys dressing up to go out for dinner because it makes them feel sexy.

But when it comes to back and forth abuse, men DO have to be MORE careful because they are very large and very strong, and women, like children, are smaller and usually weaker. That doesn't mean small dogs don't bite. it just means try to keep yourself out of jail.

It also means you should always be as respectful as possible, mind your manners, help out if you see that help is needed, and if you want sex give a potential partner what he or she seems to want.

Don't send yourself to jail by being stupid and abusive, and understand that this is not an all or nothing situation. There is no black and white in this....and you can apply that maxim to all of life.

Men and women are equal.We bring different things to the table sure.That woman was wrong to initiate things.Men and women both have the same rights to not be subjected to that and to defend ourselves.
When I was 18 and splitting up with my 25 year old boyfriend he tried to slap me.Dumb move,I had a karate first Dan black belt and I can wrestle, which he already knew.I stopped him and retaliated savagely.By the time my parents got me off him I had scratched punched kicked and thrown him like a rag doll,pretty much beating him to a pulp.They got him to the ER.

I think you’re confused. You wouldn’t hut your grandfather would you? He is your equal just not your peer. Some people are stronger than others. That doesn’t have much to do with having respect for another person’s opinions and wishes.

I can see your point. I, for one, just want to be treated with respect. I don't expect men to treat me like a dainty little thing. AT the same time a lot of men disrespect women by expecting them to wait on them hand and foot just because they are men I won't let then get away with treating me like an inferior servant.

I can see how you would find this puzzling based upon your upbringing and your generation. I don't think men and women are equal. Some things a woman cannot be capable of doing the same as a man. Other things, yes. Same with men. I want to be looked upon as a person who is kind, caring, intelligent, and humorous. I am a woman. You are a man.

The issue here is not, ONLY IF a woman wants to be subjected to punches and physical violence , are they THEN , equal.😐 Whether a man or woman wishes to punch another is their own (often ignorant) choice, but it has no bearing, on if both are 'equal'.

Cap the made me laugh a belly laugh
It reminded me of a time I squared off with this black girl in school .
I envisioned me getting her in a head lock ,still holding my books and papers
and she would know she met a boy not taking her crap ,and it would be over

It ended with me seeing stars ,my books and papers all over the playground .
and her standing over me asking me if I wanted some more .

From that day on my Dads rule ended 1/2 my problems
Since that day I have never fought another girl ,for any reason ,and I have been slapped .

But no guy is doing that to me ,I would ask someone to hold my beer and my books

As a woman physically, as your equal or superior professionally.

treat me with respect and you can be who you want to be

I assume you are talking about home life because I've never had the "woman" card pulled on me in 20+ years of work.

Interesting vague article you're talking about. Details would be nice.

Your position is that men don't react differently when things are difficult, they're always on an even keel?

I love what you have written here! I want to be treated as a woman, precious and cherished like a gem.

assholes don't have a gender

Equal is means we hate the same rights. It doesn’t eat we don’t we don’t have differences.

I read this like it was straight out of Mad Men.

And that’s why I would never hit a man (nor anyone) unless I was already in their grasp and fighting to get away. If I just hauled off and hit someone, I would expect to get hit back, because I do see things as equal. I’m a feminist, and in intellect I’m on fairly solid footing. But physically I’m no prizefighter and I realize it.