Do you want me to see you as my equal or as a woman

It is very hard to respect a person who on one day wishes to be looked at as my equal. On the next day when things are difficult she wishes to be looked upon and treated like a woman. This is very complicated but it is making men like myself very reluctant and uneasy around female counterparts.

Also I saw a news story where a woman slapped a man and spit on him while he was eating. The man stood up and punched her one time he broke her jaw. Everyone is angry at the man they say he has abused a woman. Unfortunately in the world that I live in if a man slapped another man and spit on him he would expect to get punched. This once again brings up the question do you want us to look at you as ladies or do you want us to look at you as equals?