Do you want me to see you as my equal or as a woman

It is very hard to respect a person who on one day wishes to be looked at as my equal. On the next day when things are difficult she wishes to be looked upon and treated like a woman. This is very complicated but it is making men like myself very reluctant and uneasy around female counterparts.

Also I saw a news story where a woman slapped a man and spit on him while he was eating. The man stood up and punched her one time he broke her jaw. Everyone is angry at the man they say he has abused a woman. Unfortunately in the world that I live in if a man slapped another man and spit on him he would expect to get punched. This once again brings up the question do you want us to look at you as ladies or do you want us to look at you as equals?

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Spoiledbrat · F

I think you’re confused. You wouldn’t hut your grandfather would you? He is your equal just not your peer. Some people are stronger than others. That doesn’t have much to do with having respect for another person’s opinions and wishes.

Capt11 · 46-50, M

@Spoiledbrat That was a very thoughtful and well said answer. I can see where you are trying to draw comparisons. I think this issue is a little different. My grandfather was once a man in my similar position there is a respect and understanding there. He can relate to similar experiences that I have gone through and I to him. I do not know what it is like to be a woman. I cannot comprehend that this is why I am asking the question. Believe it or not men are pretty simple. Women are extremely different and sometimes complicated so you can not use your past experience for the next one that you meet.

Spoiledbrat · F

She is equal to you but also different. She is not you and she is not a man but she is not any less important in this world than you are. *Or any less capable. @Capt11

Capt11 · 46-50, M

I agree with you 100% actually I believe a woman has a very important and vital role in this world. I will tell you I would not want to be in a world without women without mothers without grandmother's without great teachers who showed me patience and love when I was a little bit slower to learn. I value women and all of the things that they bring to the table. The sad part to me is I don't think they value them I think they are constantly trying to be something they are not. No matter how much I would like to be taller I will never be taller I have to accept that I am 71 inches tall. They made it difficult for me to do some things in life like play beach volleyball I accept that however I was a great full back. Perhaps you do not get my point and if you did not know a full back is a stud running back.

Spoiledbrat · F

Believe me, I get your point. I got it. @Capt11

Capt11 · 46-50, M

I do not know you but I respect you for your intelligence. I respect you for having the patience to dialog. I appreciate you putting in the time and effort. Because we have that basic respect I think we could get along. We may not always agree on every issue but we have a foundation that will allow us to listen and consider. If every person was like you I would not care what gender they were what sexual orientation they were what color or ethnicity they were.

Spoiledbrat · F

If an old man spit on you, you would break his jaw? If your partner spit on you , you would break their jaw? Your partner is not your friend. You might hit one of the guys but you wouldn’t hit your partner because if the relationship you gave with them. You wouldn’t hit a teacher no matter the gender. You wouldn’t hit them because of their position in this world. You respect their role.@Capt11

Capt11 · 46-50, M

Once again you make valid comments I appreciate what you are doing. I am going to tell you I would not do a lot of those things just because I see outburst of anger different. Trust me it is hard to walk away when you feel disrespected but sometimes you do give a pass just because you know what is the right things do. It may not be easy but you know in your heart it is right. I think that is the point are making and I understand that.