A friend said years ago he had his 2 boys wear ties and dress clothes as did he, and took their mother out to dinner a very nice restaurant. His wife was quite impressed the boys even helped her sit down and move her chair at the table. His wife still talks about that years later and both boys are now married and have done the same for their wives on special occassions.
@Metalbarbie 🤔yes i feel very much so that we have gentlemanly and good manners in today society. but this may be my age and how i was raised also influences this attitute too
I think, personally, that some things are a bit outdated. But I'll have to admit that I would immediately fall for any man who gives me flowers unannounced
I think there are ways to be a gentleman reasonably.
I don't want my chair pulled out. But opening a door for me ugh it just melts my heart when someone is aware of being kind. And if he opens it for the elderly person behind us, even better.
Not in MY experience. Seems to me that the nicer and more of a gentleman you are, the more suspicious women get. Of course, as with everything, there are rare exceptions.
@SmileOnYourBrother You’re assuming women “pick” creepy men on purpose, which isn’t fair. Many times, these men don’t show their true colors right away. They act charming, normal, or even kind initially, and it’s only later that the red flags appear.
This is where we come full circle back to chivalry question. And your statement of women being suspicious the nicer you are. The blame for creepiness lies with the men behaving that way, not the women who unknowingly encounter them with a fake mask on.
@Metalbarbie I'm sorry. I forgot the rules. I temporarily forgot this is internet social media, where all women are sugar, spice, and everything nice, without question. Completely void of blame for their bitterness. Innocent, angelic victims of creepy, evil narcissistic men on a forum where only one side of a story is ever heard. 😌
@SmileOnYourBrother not at all. And no need for sarcasm. Women are just as bad as men. I don't disagree. But this post is about chivalry and the discussion is about "creepy men" since you brought it up. Just trying to stay on topic. And not divert into "but she ..." But it you like to discuss women and everything you mentioned maybe you should put up a post and people(include myself) can comment on that. So that way we can all stay on the actual topic 😊
What was once defined as being a gentleman is mostly just good manners, and still very important. It includes behaviors that both genders should adopt.
Their clothes look way too nice for the ambiance of that restaurant -- no tablecloths; uncomfortable looking chairs. This kind of makes me think of two people getting dressed up all fancy just to go to McDonalds! 😂
@HumanEarth This is true. Men and women did evolve to be together but now they're drifting apart. The only force that could so easily drive them apart would seem to be the same one that put them together. You say what you do because your big human brain tells you it's the truth. An animal couldn't even contemplate something like that. And, what you say is true. Who the hell wants to be absorbed into a couple? to be dependent on someone else or erased by such an arrangement? Of course, then, we can't reproduce ourselves. But, if we can develope at least an artificial womb, then machines can handle the task. This artificiality could actually be a natural outgrowth. Birds build nests from twigs. Humans by their nature could build artificial wombs and genetic alterations. What people see as artificial may be simply a more sophisticated version of the same behavior.
i hated my parents, but my mother demanded i treat everyone with respect and kindness and always act with integrity. if that's being a gentleman, then that's what i am