Do people disappoint you more or is it you who do?

It's a process, I think. You don't arrive in life knowing that you are the author of your own misfortunes, and it's definitely not easy to see it when you are so close. Can't see the forest for the trees sort of thing, you know?

It's a bit naive to expect to control your emotions throughout your life. You can't. All you can do is put coping mechanisms into place, like understanding that you need to keep very busy if things are particularly bad, instead of dwelling on how you feel.

And when you begin to catch glimpses of that forest I mentioned, above, (seeing the big picture), it's not always easy to admit your own part in self created misfortunes, such as being drawn to the wrong sort of person, or refusing to distance yourself from toxic family.

When you have grown enough, and you see it and can admit it to yourself, it's difficult to make the sacrifices you sometimes require...those painful changes in toxic relationships and so on.

I believe it's a process. Of awakening to ourselves.
We blame outward when we believe in being victims.
We look inward when these interactions become a lesson for us to learn something more of ourselves.
That doesn't mean that we will always be perfectly in control. But it does mean we begin to have more compassion for others and ourselves too.

I think it's a bit of both but lately I've been the one mostly dissapointing myself. Like I keep letting myself down in one way or another. It's just that it's tough dealing with what I have to deal with sometimes..and having no one to talk to about certain issues makes it often times a tough burden to bear on my own.

I'm kind of in a road that's been less traveled in my life. For a long time I really wanted to be normal and fit in somewhere within society but to my detriment no matter how hard I tried to achieve this I ended up in an odd situation with life where at times I feel very abnormal or inadequate unfortunately. No life is perfect and we all have our burdens so we try hard everyday to survive and after that make something meaningful in our lives.

I learned a long time ago to not have expectations of others.

[Young children in my care and pets are the exception]

Ive always taken responsibility for my dissapointment . Ive been more dissapointed by myself than anyone else. I guess ive never really expected too much from others.

People disappoint me more.. not that i disappoint them any less .. more just a wish i didn't avoid them sooner eh?

I disappoint myself the most

Expectations the root cause ..

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I am zero on patience with myself.
Simple as that.

My thoughts.... people have expectations of others... even couples. We feel let down when someone doesn't live up to our expectations. So... maybe best to look at each person as individuals, how each is and if we are expecting more than what they are already doing/giving.
I feel it's true that many times, the more we really get to know another and are around that person, the more contempt we might have..... it's our own made misery since we choose to not like how someone is after a time.... even knowing how the person is from the start.

If I am feeling disappointed about someone, it's usually because I had high hopes and expectations, even knowing how it really is.