Do people disappoint you more or is it you who do?

We can easily blame others for our miseries and for changing, but shouldn't we be in control of our own emotions and life? I know we're no saints or Gurus that say think than feel, but how do you do it? How bigger role does depression play in it? How do you become headstrong? Fvck wish I wasn't an idealist.

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My thoughts.... people have expectations of others... even couples. We feel let down when someone doesn't live up to our expectations. So... maybe best to look at each person as individuals, how each is and if we are expecting more than what they are already doing/giving.
I feel it's true that many times, the more we really get to know another and are around that person, the more contempt we might have..... it's our own made misery since we choose to not like how someone is after a time.... even knowing how the person is from the start.

If I am feeling disappointed about someone, it's usually because I had high hopes and expectations, even knowing how it really is.