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Christmas gift giving

My boyfriend decided that he doesn't want any gifts from me this year, and any money I would have spent on him I should use to get myself something, so he won't have to get me a gift.

Is that being practical or is he being a prick?

I find it hurtful, am I being overly sensitive?

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BlondilyOld · F

I think its sweet.
My hub is the same way, he doesn't ever want me to buy him anything yet he is generous to family members. He just wants to see the joy on family members faces. Your bf is a keeper. Sounds like a good guy

Sunshinekiss · 51-55, F

@BlondilyOld thing is he doesn't want to buy me anything. It's his way to get out of exchanging gifts.

BlondilyOld · F

It sounds like he's tight with his money. If he is then accept him for that or leave him if it makes you unhappy @Sunshinekiss

aaaabbbb

@BlondilyOld that's a fair way to look at. If he is dishonest,it will come out.

4meAndyou · F

If he refuses YOUR gifts, and he can't be bothered buying YOU a gift, then I agree with stereoguy. The guy is definitely a loser.

SW-User

If you're upset by it, that's a huge "tell." This doesn't bode well for a ltr. He should be into the idea of exchanging gifts with you.

TexChik · F

I think it was an engraved invitation to kick him to the curb. That was very disrespectful.

Beautywithin · 36-40, F

My hubby has said same this year ! But diff if you have kids to buy for etc

Lumberjack70 · 56-60, M

If sounds like he’s being kind. As with anything sensitive in a relationship, find some quiet time and talk through it with him. You will both be better off for it.

Perhaps you guys could spend it on a date night or on something charitable. Just food for thought.

Freetime · 56-60, M

I don't think you're being overly sensitive. It is hurtful. He doesn't want to go to the trouble of thinking of a gift for you. The fact that he can't be bothered to think of you says a lot.

lovelychicadee · 41-45, F

I have a feeling in his eyes it makes sense and is practical. Probably in a harmless way. But I would like you and be a bit hurt. The thought of receiving something, even very simple is meaningful.

MountainMonk89 · 51-55, M

These seem like behaviors of a guy trying to pull back and exit a relationship.

dale74 · M

Depends upon how long ago he told you that and if he's just now telling you that he's being a prick if he mentioned that let's say three four months ago then he knows his financial situation. But neither one of you should have to spend a lot of money on either one

Sunshinekiss · 51-55, F

@dale74 he just told me. It's not about spending a lot of money. Just a small token would have been enough.

It's just another sign that my "relationship " is over.

dale74 · M

@Sunshinekiss I'm sorry I wish I at least had a relationship I haven't dated anyone since I got divorced almost 3 years ago

stound

probably intended at the first, but likely implemented as the second. it takes more time, creativity and it's not always the best results, but you can pretty much come up with something to give/get/make for someone.

ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F

I think you should get him something regardless, something small or meaningful

He doesn’t want you to waste your money on tons of crazy gifts

Maybe even pay for something you two can both do together

Mindfulness

I think he realises he doesn't know what to get you so thinks he's found an easy way out. I don't think he's being deliberately insensitive but it is thoughtless and lazy. Is he maybe a bit skint?

pdockal · 56-60, M

All depends what his motives are
I don't exchange with anybody (long long story)
Told my family I just want to spend time with them
Niece and nephews get cash for all events

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@sunshinekiss] i think he is being a bit of acrooge personally and mean . the idea of christmas is to give presents as a token of love and affection😒