I just expeienced something I would call

@elafina thanks elafina

@Gangstress id like to add going for coffee with a colleague is common otherwise apparently id be having affairs every day.

@Gangstress she's not colleague, she's a customer.

@Anielka I need to be professional and cordial without offending her

@robb65 I am leaning towards her wanting to discuss her health in private away from anyone else that might know her. It could very well be something along those lines, she has recently lost a lot of weight....could be a residual of something to that effect.

@Ferric67 Could be. I had a customer once who brought up her divorce. It's a small town and her ex is a local businessman. I already knew, everyone else around here knew. Upper society people, I definitely wasn't her type and I never figured why she felt the need to bring it up unless it was to be sure I heard her version of the story.

@smiler2012 long story short, i initially agreed (not fully understanding what her intentions were). I got to work this morning and it was apparent that the weather tonight would be icy...so i preemptively cancelled on her via an email i sent her in the morning. She responded and confirmed what I had thought but ignored (her marriage is ending and she wants to explore alternative possibilities). Before I left work, I responded and left it off as thank you but it won't work. She is a sweet woman who is attractive, now is not a good time for me though...but, I did leave it off that she has an ally in me if she needs support.

@Ferric67 did the right thing really do not want to get involved in a breakdown of someones marriage can be dangerous as you can get dragged in when it is really none of your business

@SW-User I barely know her. She came right up to me about 20 minutes ago and kinda cornered me.

@Carissimi I want to limit the awkwardness and minimize any sort of embarrassment for her. She is a customer at where I work and I see her everyday. Last week her car broke down and I had my coworkers help her fix it on the spot. Ever since, she keeps on coming up to me and saying things....but today, she took it to whole new level.

I’d ask her what she wants to talk to you about. Going for coffee with a married woman sounds a bit risky, but it’s your life. @Ferric67

@Carissimi I'm going to to talk it over with my boss now and see what she says since she knows her

@Patientlywaiting I don't, but I need to be diplomatic without offending her.

@Patientlywaiting havent you ever done nude coffee?

@Ferric67 you just go and have the coffee and hear her out. Approach it as friendship only. I think you're over thinking it.

@Patientlywaiting that is my hope for a best case scenario too

@Ferric67 good luck 🤞

@Ferric67 Hmmm... it's strange to just approach that way someone you don't know.

@Ferric67 is she still there ?

@SimplyLogicalDiscipline I missed her on the way out. I did have a very extensive talk about it with my boss. We are leaning towards this woman wanting to discuss a personal health matter with me and away from anyone else. Whatever this issue is, she wants it private. But her approach is bizarre.

@skybubble20 yes I know and that is what I am hoping for.

@elafina well, as soon as I found out what her motives were...I've done my best to avoid her (I see her just about everyday).

@Ferric67 oh if you felt like no then.. it's good to respect your gut feeling too.
So what her motives were ??

@elafina she's a married woman interested in collecting new boyfriends

@SW-User after a long discussion with my boss, we are hoping that she probably wants some sort of guidance regarding her personal health and wants this talk done in private away from anyone she knows. She just caught me off guard since I've never really spoken with her.

@Ferric67 Fair enough