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“Hey” isn’t much of a motivation to want to talk to someone, especially a stranger who just shows up in your inbox. I usually just trash those and don’t bother wasting a block.
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RubySoo · 56-60, F
How are you supposed to reply to "Hey!"
I wouldn't reply to that. If soneone feels they want to talk to me i'd expect more effort than "hey!"
I wouldn't reply to that. If soneone feels they want to talk to me i'd expect more effort than "hey!"
Lilnonames · F
fortycreek · M
@Lilnonames thats stray but get your point lol
Selah ·
Was it an 18-21F. You were the 100th "hey" of the hour, probably.
OogieBoogie · F
This isnt Snapchat.
Lemme reccomend a few things:
- profile pic (as someone else pointed out)
- make some posts so ppl get an idea of you.
- read others posts and comment - let others see you, and get to interact and know them a little .
- DON'T use one word intro's - it shows minimal effort and instantly insults the person youre DMing.
- have a reason, and express that reason for why you want to talk to them - starting an actual conversation increases the chances of one .
Lemme reccomend a few things:
- profile pic (as someone else pointed out)
- make some posts so ppl get an idea of you.
- read others posts and comment - let others see you, and get to interact and know them a little .
- DON'T use one word intro's - it shows minimal effort and instantly insults the person youre DMing.
- have a reason, and express that reason for why you want to talk to them - starting an actual conversation increases the chances of one .
OogieBoogie · F
@BRUUH 🤣... heavens no😂....embarrased.
@OogieBoogie Check your DM's when you get the time.I wanna ask you something :)
DerSilberneKonig1 · 22-25, M
its the opposite sometimes too, a few people have dmd me a hi or hey, and ill say hi or hey back and then they dont respond lol, makes no sense
Fawma123 · 46-50, M
I never answer to hey what's the point
BEENOV · M
Profile pic bro
XDHyperGirlXD1 · 31-35, F
Because you have an M on your profile
Change it to F and be sexual and your pms will fill up fast 😂
Change it to F and be sexual and your pms will fill up fast 😂
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How rude. And after all that effort and thought you put in.
SW-User
That person probably receives too many of the 'hey' opening messages and was fed up of having to figure out what this 'hey' would lead to. 🤷🏽
Not weird on this site to be blocked for 'hey'.
Not weird on this site to be blocked for 'hey'.
SW-User
@SW-User Then the old adage matters, just be yourself matters here as then you can disrupt that cycle. I think you are tired of this site, often I am too, and I know the meanings about being a part of a community, it means accepting some parts of a community, but it doesn't have to mean giving up those nuances that are yourself, and you can still be part. That's how community grows.
SW-User
@SW-User in theory, I agree.
In practice, I state what I observe. Perhaps a little projection too because there was a time I used to get such messages, when I was active. And whereas on its own that is not a problem, it becomes one when someone responds and a variety of unsavory results emanate. People become wary of it and if you catch someone on a bad day, they can block.
Often what should be and what is, is entirely different. And it's okay.
Communities also have their idiosyncrasies.
In practice, I state what I observe. Perhaps a little projection too because there was a time I used to get such messages, when I was active. And whereas on its own that is not a problem, it becomes one when someone responds and a variety of unsavory results emanate. People become wary of it and if you catch someone on a bad day, they can block.
Often what should be and what is, is entirely different. And it's okay.
Communities also have their idiosyncrasies.
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Sojournersoul · M
Hey is for horses, grass is cheaper
LilRedGod · 31-35, M
@Sojournersoul unless u put your hand out then it's for the closest boys. 🤣
Bleak · 36-40, F
Instant response😀
NiteRaven93 · 31-35, M
That's how a lot of people here are. I'll block someone if they are rude or disgusting but I welcome messages from anyone because they may need help with something in their lives
Matt85 · 36-40, M
I think some women are suffering from 'Messege Fatigue'.🤔
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
Shrug….I don’t respond to messages with just “hi” or “hey”. Presumably, if you contacted me, you have something to say. So say it.
Zaphod42 · 51-55, M
They bothered to respond? A one word dm gets zero attention from me 🤷♂️
Fishy · 36-40, F
Nothing screams legit like a empty-profile-stranger randomly messaging you "hey"
4meAndyou · F
I block all semi-literate unimaginative men who pm me out of the blue. ☺️
DHggmu · 31-35, M
Wouldn’t worry about it, my introductory messages are usually unique, based on the individual and their interests, doesn’t make a difference. People act like conversation is a one way street, one word answers, dead end replies. Welcome to the internet. Still waiting to find one person who can hold a conversation.
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
Hey is a bit vague. I probably wouldn't answer.
ThickMadame · 51-55, F
Now that bad, okay. I know I'm not here reg like everyone else.
But I have a profile pic, a complete profile bio
But dam
But I have a profile pic, a complete profile bio
But dam
valobasa4ever · F
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
hay is for horses
AdaXI · 41-45, T
The thing is most people won't engage in that kind of start because it nearly always goes the same way, something like ..
hey
hi
hru?
nb, hru?
horny bb!!!
And that's the end of the conversation, so once people have been here a while they'll just skip straight to the end part and either bin the message or block you.
乂º◡º乂
hey
hi
hru?
nb, hru?
horny bb!!!
And that's the end of the conversation, so once people have been here a while they'll just skip straight to the end part and either bin the message or block you.
乂º◡º乂
Confined · 56-60, M
If you send a DM tell that person why you are contacting them. Later on, you can say hi.
ReneeT · 61-69, M
Next time you should maybe introduce yourself. That may get you in the door!
Vestorius · 41-45, M
I don't get all this comments. If you meet someone in rl you also greet with hey or how are u doing and you most likely say hi back.
Vestorius · 41-45, M
@Mamapolo2016 ok let's do it the way we both feel comfortable with. I do it this way.
Mamapolo2016 · F
@Vestorius Agreed!
Heartlander · 80-89, M
@Vestorius Hi .... it's not quite like passing someone on the street and saying hey. We do that (when passing someone on the street) as a courtesy and to show ourselves as a polite non-threatening person, to acknowledge one another as co-inhabitants of this earth. They respond with their own hey to confirm they are likewise.
Saying hey here is more like tapping someone on the shoulder before saying hey, so you probably need more than just hey to explain why you singled them out to say hey.
Saying hey here is more like tapping someone on the shoulder before saying hey, so you probably need more than just hey to explain why you singled them out to say hey.
illw84u · 36-40, F
Maybe their just traumatized 🤷♀️
BigBulge · 41-45, M
"Hey?" You've got to do better than that.
Offthetop · 51-55, M
Sounds fair. You showed your ability and willingness to keep up your end of a conversation.
Really · 80-89, M
@LilRedGod Idkwylyfao dyse? Ippwtinfs. Igyootwp!
LilRedGod · 31-35, M
So "IT" do not let me see u in my street drains I'll take a charge for peeing in that drain u are chilling in 🤣😈
Fluffybull · F
I don't bother people who message "hey" or "hi" either. Or people without a profile pic. Laziness if nothing else 🙄
Lilymoon · F
No profile pic, your username, and your obvious intelligence. 😬
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BeefySenpie · M
Not figuring out why that may have occurred is even weirder
PoeticPlay · 51-55, M
Oh you have no idea.
RedBaron · M
Why did you bother?
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
LilRedGod · 31-35, M
@SumKindaMunster *finger snap in a z shape*
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Around here, responding to an unprompted "hey" in DMs is a good way to get unwanted pics sent out of the blue.
If you really want to talk to someone, shed some light on your interest in doing so and give them something more to respond to.
You don't have a new user tag, so I'm wondering why this response surprises you somehow.
If you really want to talk to someone, shed some light on your interest in doing so and give them something more to respond to.
You don't have a new user tag, so I'm wondering why this response surprises you somehow.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
Maybe it's your name. One time, I had somebody DM me "Goodbye, smoke creature" before blocking me.
SatanBurger · 36-40, FVIP
@LordShadowfire People take things too seriously.
LilRedGod · 31-35, M
@SatanBurger yah I go by this name in mobile games I play and kids get so offended when I speak in globe chat. Then everyone one in the mom games hates them and then kicks them out of their guild or faction.
SatanBurger · 36-40, FVIP
@LilRedGod Wow they take those seriously huh
Lilnonames · F
I reply back
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
😂 what are you a horse?
LilRedGod · 31-35, M
@Moneyonmymind well I have been called a stud and stud muffin before! Lmfao
There is a general rule, do not dm until you know the other person, and especially with women, do NOT dm until invited to do so.
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LilRedGod · 31-35, M
@jshm2 there is no rules on how to talk or conversat. So your "Adult" B.S. has zero validation more would really hold up anywhere. So the whole taking everything seriously is something you do. I bet it the type of "Adult" who gets kicked out of the comedy club cause you are being a hacker and talking every hole seriously. Those leading to running grown folks night. But it's just a gut feeling and can't be true!?
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Lilnonames · F