Why do so so many people shy away at the idea of kinks and BDSM? Is it not healthy to explore...

Some kink and fetish stuff is deliberately scary or off-putting, so some people are scared and put off.
On the other hand some people are afraid of their own desires and so they have mixed feelings about those who are exploring their own more freely.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Simply because it's not their thing. It doesn't arouse them so they have no reason to even try it.
As for those who find it attractive, I think it has a lot to do with trust issues.

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

I don't really judge others for it, but it isn't so much for me. I am plenty sexual but I am not really into kink. I think people should be free to explore within the realms of consent though.

ThesebootsRmade4walking · 46-50New

I did in my younger years. I think mostly because I was lacking in other areas of my life. Now, no thanks.

Reject · 31-35, M

It seemed fine until you said an outlet for trauma. That needs to be resolved in a healthy way. Not enabled in less than safe environments.

NickyLee · 41-45

Mine are too embarrassing for me to talk about. I've tried, but I've always been laughed at for the most part

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I'm a private person and i'm old school and i believe that whatever you are into is between you and whomever you are intimate with. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. I don't want to hear about it, i don't want to see it. I dont need to join some fetish club or be a walking billboard. That's just me! Its my personal opinion. Its all so hypocritical, some of the same people who are flaunting their sex lives to the world are bashing gay people for doing less.