What's the most heartbreaking thing you've ever experienced?

There's been some heartache for sure. First was each of the four miscarriages I've had. Every one of those babies was very much longed for so it was definitely something I'd describe as heartbreaking.

I think about what might have been from time to time but it wasn't God's plan. In the end we fostered and then adopted our children but the hardest was suddenly losing my husband to a brain hemorrhage.

I still see flashbacks from the events of that morning but the most heartbreaking thing ever was having to explain to my youngest son that Daddy wasn't ever coming home. The look on his face and the tears that followed when he began to understand what had happened took the biggest piece of my heart and shattered it. That is something I don't think I will ever heal from.

Way back, 1977? I had a best friend, we done everything together, especially fishing on Macquarie Harbour on the west coast of Tasmania.
His father owned a fishing boat called The Black Witch which was berthed at Risby Cove.
One evening, by himself, he fell between the boat and the jetty and was crushed dead.
He was 15 years old.
My life changed from that day, losing my one true friend. No longer going fishing...
Time heals...

Currently, my sisters decline in health. She's my best friend and we used to do so many things together. Now she's developing horrible neuropathy in both feet, from unstable diabetes. It's not only painful, but because the nerves are dying in her feet, they are numb. She said the numbness is the most awful part. She has to be in a wheelchair chair on the rare occasion we go out. It's breaking my heart so much, and the saddest part is there's no true medicine that works for dying nerves/cure. 😟 She keeps saying she's going to die , or that she wishes she would. 😢

Two traumatic things come to mind, sadly.

Firstly, when I was raped. Back in the mid nineties. Do you ever get over that? I don't think so.

Then, mum's passing, when she was my age - 55. She died suddenly, of a heart attack. Huge effect on me. Then, the trepidation of me getting to the age that she was.

The 'birthday year' isn't over, until late May, so it's less on my mind, but still there.

SJD x

2016, two of my brothers were murdered.
I was devastated of course, but then I had to pull it all together because I had to notify the family and prepare for arrivals, and find answers to the questions that I knew were coming. I am the eldest and it has always been my duty to lead and find a way.
No matter what condition that I find myself in.
So I did.

Have I healed from it?
Not fully, no.
And I don't expect that I ever will.

But I have sought therapy and have found a way to reconstruct my life and find a way to say "Just give it one more day."

The death of my child when my first wife was eight months pregnant. I never even got to hold him. I just say hi to him in Heaven or the Universe every day and tell him that I'll see him later on. I have not completely healed from it and don't think I ever will. That was over fifteen years ago now.

Losing my oldest son to suicide.

I don’t know if I will ever be completely healed. So many questions unanswered.

Deaths of my husband and my mom. Both particularly brutal deaths, disease-wise.

In terms of healing, it’s been a kind of two steps forward three steps back type journey. I suspect that will always be the case. You learn to live with the loss but there’s a void within that can never be filled. Life is just never the same.

My fiance left me. We fell in love together after three days and were together four years. I didn't know how to handle it. For three days after she left me, I pretty much just slept. I have gotten better in the years since, but I spent many of them in mourning.

Devastating break up just this last September and losing my dad the day after thanksgiving

Watching my dad die last Spring. No I haven’t healed. Not sure I will. Just hoping for acceptance and coping through it.

The day I found out I had to have my hip replaced. I was 23 and it had been broken for six months at that point. The orthopedist I had been going to kept telling me it was healing when it wasn't.

Losing both my parents and my 3 siblings to a drunk driver.

Holding someone’s hand while waiting for them to pass 😔 I’m not sure about getting over, it’s about living with and going forward with life.

My dad passed away the day after my birthday 💔😢

My dad passed away in my arms.

Losing my dad twice, to dementia.

My mother taking away her own life

Losing a Grand parent or parent.

Holding my mothers hand while she passed away. Still processing it four years later