Would you be offended if you were invited to a restaurant

@DarkSideoftheMoon lol Well, tyvm! 😊

I hope these last weeks before your special day go well, and that the UK can keep improving, pandemic-wise, all during this time. Take care and laugh a bit, etc., to release the tension which you naturally get around such a big event.

@SomeMichGuy thanks. I love England

@DarkSideoftheMoon And many of us here in the US actually do, as you well know! 😊😊😊🇬🇧

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@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout What if u brought a gift

@DarkSideoftheMoon good idea helps recognize the comer

@DarkSideoftheMoon
We live in times where everyone’s scraping thru with dollars.
I just assume I’m paying for my food n drinks no matter where I go.

@FaeLuna thanks. I just dont want to be offensive

@DarkSideoftheMoon there's a difference between being offensive and to disclosure lol

@DarkSideoftheMoon As long as people know up front what the situation is, they can choose to go or not, knowing full well that they'll pay their own way.

@HoraceGreenley @SW-User yeah agreed but the situation is they want to be included in the occasion and we werent going to do anything with family until later on. They keep asking and throwing ideas out so my fiance came up with this idea. I was going to just wait but for rn it's either this or nothing. I suppose I'd just rather do nothing than offend people but if I do nothing they could be offended by that also. It's very tricky

@DarkSideoftheMoon in that case if they were asking they should pay

@SW-User we are hosting it but it's for them really so they feel included but I do feel like a prick

@DarkSideoftheMoon I don't think anyone would mind paying if they know in advance.

@SW-User thanks that makes me feel better. They keep asking if were gonna do something so it's more for them than for us really. When I said no were not doing anything they kept insisting so idk

@DarkSideoftheMoon I hope it goes well anyway. I quite fancy a curry now lol

@Jeffrey53 wow yeah that's awkward. I was going to tell everyone in the invite kindly it was dutch. So that wouldnt happen

@Keeper spot on. It's not a venue, it's a table at a restaurant

@QueenandCrown that makes me feel a bit better. It hurts me that we probably have to have people pay their own way but on the other hand, if we didnt do anything with the family they'd be hurt they werent part of the occasion and with covid, we cant have so many people in a home for a bbq or something. It's so tricky but I figured if they know before hand then they dont have to go if they dont want to. It's not a pricey place either. Just a curry house. £8 a plate

@DarkSideoftheMoon Trust me. In today's time I think many people expect to pay for their food.

@QueenandCrown ok thank you. See that we both have similar customs I appreciate your feedback

@quitwhendone no because covid. Our wedding had to be moved so many times and now all we were able to book was town hall with 2 witnesses and my mom cant come because she would have to quarantine for 10 days and he job wont give her that much time off so were going to do something back home with her as soon as we can

@wildbill83 its byob or you can order from the bar. Closed bar

@Zeusdelight no his family is very laid back and friendly. Mine is unfortunately in a different country and because of covid they cant attend but were planning something their when we can

@DarkSideoftheMoon Lovely. I saw your photos and he is lucky to have such a thoughtful and beautiful Lady:)

@Zeusdelight thank you

@SW-User what if its stated in the invite that's its dutch?

@DarkSideoftheMoon I mean if the person wants to invite them that isn't important... The place or anything but it always depends on the context... Specially if the others are asking it

@Wolf90 yeah I'd never do that to them. I'd tell them in advance

@DarkSideoftheMoon That's the right way to do it definitely :)

@AnthroKenji agreed

@Allelse my brother is the same way. He just hates events so he hates being invited to them

@DarkSideoftheMoon Yep that's me, events, ugh, give me a 5 hour lone hike.

@TexChik yeah I'm thinking of making an invitation with the website of the restaurant and stating please check for menu and pricing. I just dont want to be rude

@ozgirl512 honestly we werent going to do anything until covid was more under control but people kept asking and insisting so the outcome was a dinner but pay your way but its tricky when it can be seen as offensive but then if u dont do something that includes the family, that's offensive too 🤷

@DarkSideoftheMoon I'm in Australia and we have different social customs maybe... But rest person paying their own way is at a restaurant is the norm... Unless the invite is from bill Gates lol
People still want to miss and celebrate 🤗

@Watching even if you brought a gift?

@DarkSideoftheMoon yes, even if I brought a gift.

@Eclipsed you'd pay more for the lawyer fees than the £8 curry