Sexual confusion

I am older than you and could write with equal confusion about my sexuality, but I decided years ago that it isn't important to figure out. Our desires can change over time, or we can discover new desires that we didn't know we had. ~~ I think these labels like "bisexual" or "straight" can be useful if they help us understand and accept ourselves, but not if they limit us. -- It sounds like you are happy being with one person, and that might be more important to you than any of these labels.

I have felt confused about my sexuality my whole life. I have been married to the same woman since we were both in our early twenties. We have always been into social nudism, and we have spent most or all of our vacations at nudist places. I have always been attracted to men, and seeing men in the nude has really intensified my feelings over the years. My wife has been very supportive of me, and helped me to disregard all of those labels that people want to place on us. I don't care if I am bi or straight or gay. I love my wife and I always want to be with her. But I am also really attracted to some men, and seeing a man in the nude can made me crazy with ecitement. That is good enough for me, and my wife is actually happy about that.

Bisexuality is real.

And so is homosexuality, asexuality, pansexuality, and gender-fluid lifestyle. Sex is one of the most rich, complicated, and powerful forms of human experience. Trying to contain this energy within rigid moral and legal systems has never worked perfectly. Ancient thinkers understood this centuries ago, and native tribal groups created traditional roles for these individuals within their societies.

But don't worry about feeling "confused" or get tangled up in someone else's ignorant judgements. Find a way to love others that's true to your own nature. Like @ThePatientAnarchist has pointed out, labels are only useful if they help people understand themselves ✌

I don't think many people are equally attracted to both, I for example get attracted to women a lot more often than I do to men, yet I am married to a man. I don't really know if bisexual people's preferences tend to switch from time to other, but I imagine it happens to some extend. When I first got into a relationship with a woman, my attraction towards men disappeared so much so that I truly felt like I was lesbian. Later my attraction towards men came back. (=

I don't think that the sexual attraction to men and women needs to be equal.
Just as being straight doesn't mean that you're attracted to all members of the opposite sex and being gay/lesbian doesn't mean that you're attracted to all members of your own sex.
Having some sexual attraction to those of the opposite sex and some attraction to those of your own sex would constitute bisexuality....whether it be equal or not, and certainly not requiring it to be equal at all times.
There's a thing called "sequentially bisexual" (a term I found out about in a research study) where one is sometimes more attracted to the opposite gender and sometimes more attracted to their own gender.
I thought of myself as straight until I first had sex with a man, after which I considered myself bisexual for many years. In recent years, I've realized that I'm not sexually attracted to women, but only to men....so I now think of myself as gay.

There are such things as being sexual switches. It's not being bisexual as such.

That is different than being a switch aggressively. Which is what I am. I can be both dominant and submissive at different times.

There is well other factors. Another is being polyamorous

In all situations it's always best to be you. Accept yourself as you are.

Don't try to push yourself in any directions. Your confusion has more to do with being accepted in society.

I’m the same way just the opposite sex from you. I don’t really worry about the labels, there are long periods of time when I don’t crave sex with a man, and then I get in the mood for that. I think some of us drift. So I’m technically bisexual but percentage wise more straight.

You seem to care more about the person you're with rather than their sex. That sounds pretty bisexual to me. I don't think bisexual means that you're attracted to both sexes equally all the time. You had considered yourself straight when you were married to a man, but after that, you became involved with a woman. What was the process of getting into that relationship like? Did you try to deny your attraction to her until you had to give in? Or was it just, "Well, she likes me and I like her and that's all that matters."?

Also, don't worry about labels. You're a person. When you meet someone and there's something there between you, it doesn't matter what their sex is, because you're both just people looking for connection, and that's really all that matters.

Just be the way you are. Gender is dynamic and not static. Don't try to fit yourself with preconceived hoods like manhood womanhood etc.

You are only one part of a relationship. Other part is the one who is attracted to you. Also, you haven't spoken about your attraction but more about other's attraction towards you. You seem to have married because the Man wanted to marry you. No hint of you wanting anyone.

That is so cool thanks for sharing this .. I’m bi curious but I don’t know if I could follow through with being with a man sexually…

You cannot be straight or lesbian if you have tried both, it isn't possible. You can however be loyal to your partner. That in itself defines who you are.

Don't get hung up on it, they're only words... As the song says love the one you're with

Its just a label. We love who we love.

You can be bisexual and faithful to whomever you're together with, that alone doesn't define your sexuality. 🌈

I’m pretty sure my wife has had lthoughts of being with a woman! My buddy’s wife fell in love with my wife at a bar one night….kept telling her how hot she was and how good her boobs looked. She kept sliding dollar bills into her bra…reaching in further each time with her finger. I finally reached over and pulled my wife’s blouse open and my buddy’s wife looked so happy. She stuck her entire hand into my wife’s bra…my wife sat there and let her do it saying “she’s feeling of my nipple”! My wife could barely wait to get home for sex. Been a long time since I’ve seen her that turned on. I should have invited my buddy’s wife over!

Seems pretty normal to me. Being attracted to a PERSON, not a concept or idea, or stereotype, is the ultimate maturity.

Hope you don't have a dog ...else would think am into beastie relations...lol chill don't stress just enjoy the ride

Does it really matter! We are on earth once, let it be enjoyable.

I would say Bi

Why does it matter? Just love who you love ..
Sometimes labels just make things more confusing then needed

How about this you aren't you you are who you are don't change to make something else happening to make yourself better for yourself be yourself and no matter what you should not have to have or wear a level of that or yourself or anything else hopefully you understood that LOL but but you're freak flag fly... And they don't like it tell them to kick rocks it is what it is that's how I live my life we ar not here put here to judge 🥰

i would say Bi

Irrigardless of who your with your bi based on your history

I would say you are bi.

You don't have to put a label on it. 🤗

The labels dont matter just do you.

Were all your partners wealthy?

It means you can get sexual. I hate labels .

You are most likely bisexual.

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