Sexual confusion

I'm not sure if I'm bisexual. I was married, so I considered myself straight. Then I was with a woman for a few years and considered myself a lesbian. Since then, I've been with a man and consider myself straight. I feel that being bisexual means being equally attracted to men and women at the same time. When I was with a woman, I was only with her. Now, being with a man, I think of myself as being straight again. I don't know....

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

You seem to care more about the person you're with rather than their sex. That sounds pretty bisexual to me. I don't think bisexual means that you're attracted to both sexes equally all the time. You had considered yourself straight when you were married to a man, but after that, you became involved with a woman. What was the process of getting into that relationship like? Did you try to deny your attraction to her until you had to give in? Or was it just, "Well, she likes me and I like her and that's all that matters."?

Also, don't worry about labels. You're a person. When you meet someone and there's something there between you, it doesn't matter what their sex is, because you're both just people looking for connection, and that's really all that matters.