Have you as an adult ever come to the realization that you were abused as a child when you thought it was just normal? Like being beaten?

I realized when I was 9 and saw my best friend not get hit ever, then I asked more friends and found out that they didn’t either. None of them got the belt, the wooden spoon, choked, pushed down stairs or the verbal abuse either. I started running away at 10 but there was hardly any help and I was always brought home, then it would be worse. I got away from her when I was almost 17.

I did not cry at my dad's funeral. The fear of his yelling and the lack of any comfort from anyone else has made me desire to be held and to be compassionate. If I cannot get that then I just go into isolation where I feel safe.

As a young adult, when I saw my parents come to the realization that it was abuse while raising my younger siblings. They hadn’t done it often, but in later years they actually apologized for having done it at all. It was how they were raised.

It was more mentally abusive then physically. Although if I lost a fight at school with someone, my brothers would beat the snot out of me for losing before they went after the other guy. Then Dad would give us all a hiding for fighting.
Mum is a malignant narcissist, her gaslighting was truly next level and it really did a number on us. Drugs, suicidal, ran away from home.

But can't complain. Plenty of others had it much worse.

My mum n dad made us listen to barbera Streisand and Marty robins LPs on Sunday mornings.. 😭

Yes... though it was only after her death that I realised that she was sexually abusing me.

Sooner than that . I was a teenager when I realized that ...

Never!

Yes or worse!

I’ve never nor remember being beaten ok

yep

No