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Do you feel defeated at doctors when...

You were to lose some weight but only lost a few pounds? I feel so low. I dont know what they will say.

*This is for users who needed or can identify with wanting to lose weight*
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
during covid the gym closed and I became lazy and started eating bad due to boredom so I gained 40 LB !! I then went travelling and when I posted pictures some friends commented on how fat I was , also when I returned I went skiing in the rockies for a week and my performance was horrible. so after the ski trip I decided to lose weight. I lost 25LB in 3 months, then went to Peru for a month and I havent lost any weight since. (that was in may) . I still have about 15LB to lose but I can,t find the discipline to get back on the diet. I am careful about what I eat so I didn,t gain any weight back. I now weight myself every day, I find it helps to keep my weight under control.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@CoralmistI apreciate the thought but I'm not a big fan of the whole body positiveness movement, having the ideal weight for your body type and a proper food and exercise lifestyle is healthier and permits more physical activity and a healthier mind. if I look in the mirror and I don't like that I have a belly that will motivate me to lose it, I gain nothing from someone telling me i'm fine the way I am. I prefer to have friends that tell me I gained weight and I should lose weight . I think its a self-serving mentality to tell people who are overweight that they look wonderful, for sure they will love you for making them feel good but then maybe they'll die 20 years prematurally because no one told them the truth : that they needed to lose weight.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@reflectingmonkey If someone is obese and the weight gain is affecting their health numbers, or they cannot breathe well, I wouldn't say they are fine how they are. But if a person is carrying a few extra pounds, and they generally are in good health, I would celebrate the body ...otherwise shame of any part of ourselves, doesnt typically just make us motivated. There was a study done where they found overweight people lived longer, than thin people. Does that always happen, no..but, being thin, doesn't mean you will always live longer.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@Coralmist I don't know what research you are refering to but I studied nutrition and have never heard such a thing. thin people definitively live longer but also enjoy life more: they are more active, bike, climb mountains, travel. I'm a backpacker and I travel a lot, one time we were 1000 backpackers hanging out in the colombian jungle, how many were overweight? maybe 1%, I really don't remember seeing anyone overweight because it was 4 hours of walking in the jungle to get there. I beleive in encouraging each other to better ourselves, but to each his own. some people smoke cigarettes and eat bad and convince themselves that they are living the life and that eating properly and not smoking equates to not fully enjoying life. to each his own.
DragonFruit · 61-69, M
If you lost any weight, then it's a positive step towards your goal.
I weighed 217 lb. at the beginning of last year, and my doctor said that I should lose some weight. I just had an appointment, and weighed 204 lb. (I've taken over a year to lose 13 lb., but at least I lost some weight). I feel better knowing that I haven't gained weight or stayed at the same weight. Progress, even in small increments, is still progress. ❤️
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@DragonFruit Wow , good job!! And thank you, I feel like a few pounds wasnt enough for me, but maybe it will be ok and they will recognize I didn't gain any. Ty again friend. 🌹
Thomas52 · 70-79, M
It is important to maintain physical health and mental health. I became obsessed with weighing out my food, counting calories and finding eating a nightmare of guilt in order to lose weight. It worked for a while and I lost a reasonable amount. Then I realised I had lost all joy in meal times, celebratory family occasions and was constantly thinking about the next carefully planned meal. I have put some weight back on - not back to where I was - but am mentally more healthy. My advice is don't over-obsess with weight. Look at some of those treating/advising you and you'll probably realise they don't. 😃
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@Thomas52 Wow yes weighing of foods wouldtake a lot of mental energy out of me for the day. I have always tried to go by you can have everything, but in moderation. I lucked out I was ten pounds down, rather than just a few. Im glad you are having a more rounded take on your food and joy! 🌸
Thomas52 · 70-79, M
@Coralmist [i]you can have everything, but in moderation.[/i]

Excellent rule of thumb.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i am going through this right now. My doctor never told me to lose weight but i went on a doctor monitored weight loss. i only wanted to lose one dress size. this almost killed me.
Graylight · 46-50, F
Don't feel discouraged. We live in a society of instant gratification, and weight loss just doesn't work like that.

It's also useful knowledge for your doctor. He can better judge how you follow directions, what works, what doesn't and he can identify resources that may push along the process a bit.

Don't feel down. Look at what you already did. And here's a secret: Happiness and peace don't have to be tied to weight or body image. If you weren't perfect, you wouldn't be here.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@Graylight Thank you!!💜
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
Congrats on losing any weight. My docs gave me some meds that caise weight gain, caused me to gain 17 pounds in less than 6 days. It has taken me 4 months so far to lose 15 pounds of it back. Most Diabetic meds cause you to gain weight. Defeating the purpose. Anyway, be proud that even if its just a couple of pounds, its a start
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
@ronisme1 coral, why sad face, all is good. I was losing weight until they interferred. I have plans to lose another 15 pounds
If they say something I'd ask them how much they lost since last time. Well not really but I'd think it. Also if they are mean about I'd just find someone else. It's not like you are carrying a disease after all that they can catch so it's really none of their business.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@canusernamebemyusername Thank you...they are never rude, but I still fear what they may say. And I know I needed to lose a few even two years ago, so feel they will look down on me.
Indy74 · 46-50, F
I'm trying to lose weight.....I've done pretty good.....but, meds I take cause weight gain for me. If I just lose a few pounds it actually makes me feel good. Don't feel only shows your doc that you're trying. If it fell off very quickly, there could be an underlying health issue.
SilkenMist · 46-50, F
No need to go to a doctor for anything really.

They will just say, "Exercise, lose weight, stop smoking, you have type 2 diabetes and covid-19"
AND they will ask the usual list of questions about your family medical history.
Then they will give you a prescription for neproxen. All THAT is is Aleve.

And they get paid six figures a year by doing this with every patient.

You can bypass all that and save a couple hundred dollars and a couple hours by just reading this message and then going to Walmart for some Aleve after.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@SilkenMist @SilkenMist Ikr, I feel like its just constant looking for what Im doing wrong. And thats why my blood pressure is always high. Then it does come down when Im relaxed, but they have to do it and not tell me they are doing it..or I get nervous all over again. My sister has type 1, and she says THAT is the number for the start of type 2???? No way. !!!! She feels the guideline is not accurate. So yeah it seems like a lot of fear at offices...My doctor is really good and kind, but I do fear Ill get a talk on that a few pounds wasnt enough to lose. I just have to resolve to lose a few more over time..but Im TIRED of being nervous...
KimmyGary · F
You worry too much🤗
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@KimmyGary I do...but I just feel this appt. Wont be positive because I didnt lose what I needed to.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
@DeluxedEdition Ty Deluxed🌺
CoconutMilk · 22-25, M
I feel defeated when she presses down on my chest 😂
Stereoguy · 56-60, M
I completely understand and it seems the older we get the harder the weight comes off. 💔😢😢😢

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