Would you send a card to an ex friend? My good friend for many years just got in a terrible car...

bijouxbroussard · F Best Comment

The message is enough. You’ve acknowledged her misfortune and wished her well. Anything more might imply a wish to rekindle the relationship, and I’m not thinking that’s what you want to do.

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

I think the message is enough.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

I think it’s enough but I guess you’d have to ask yourself which choice would make you feel more comfortable.

Gusman · 61-69, M

You made the break from her. No need to rekindle the friendship.
Once a user always a user.
Sure, the accident my have given her a new perspective on life and she might mellow.
Is it worth the risk of finding out?
What if she does not change and hangs around like a bad smell. Would you be able to cope with that?

pentacorn · F

i, personally, wouldn't. you've acknowledged her accident and wished her well already. a second gesture might invite unwanted expectations from her. you've just been emotionally affected, which is natural. don't let it carry you away.

one thing you can ask yourself if still grappling: would you want to receive a card from her if it had been you that got into an accident?

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Only if you want to open the door to be used again

mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

Id say no, not if you dont want to be her friend again. You can always pray or wish well to someone without them knowing though, that always makes me feel better so I wont reach out.

2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

Good time to reconnect tell her you heard she was in an accident and hoped she recovers quickly. Then leave it up to her if she wants to acknowledge you.

Plasticbag · 100+, M

It’s enough. Unless you want to start on the friendship again but it sounds toxic as hell.

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

By the time I wrote someone off for good, it’s gotten so bad the only card I would send is an FOAD card. Pretty sure Hallmark doesn’t make one of those 😂

Primnproper · 56-60, F

I think the message is enough because if you have no intention of rekindling that relationship anything else could give her the impression you’re open to it.