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Did you grow up in a strict household?

I grew up in a strict and [b]religious[/b] household. My parents really had no choice but to be strict though, because of where we lived.
MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
If you took chaos and set it on fire, that was my household growing up
MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
@Nitedoc thanks so much 😊
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
@MyNameIsHurl You're welcome. I'm sure you will make the difference in your children's lives.
@MyNameIsHurl Same. Mine are away at school and my husband and I try to make the home feel as welcoming as possible when they visit.
HumanEarth · 51-55, M
Yes I did

My form of strict was in the form of a abuse. I had a father that beat us kids and, my mother and tie us up and lock us in closets

I think it took my grandparents to call the cop on my father to save us from our father. I was real little then
@HumanEarth I'm sorry you went through all that. That's just crazy.
HumanEarth · 51-55, M
Thanks for the kind words, but life was a lot different in the 60s and 70s. To many beating kids and women was the normal thing to some
graphite · 61-69, M
@HumanEarth So many people with zero tolerance for children's behavior end up having children.
Mbingh01 · 61-69, F
Yes because my dad was in the military for 22 years! Not so much the religious aspect, but definitely got the belt!
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
No. We had some restrictions but that's about it. Being sent away from the living room when there were R-rated movies on TV or we had limited time we could spend on a computer.
graphite · 61-69, M
Grew up in a house where children were controlled through violence, fear and humiliation.
maskedbandit · 56-60, M
@graphite Not good. Chin up. 🙂
I don’t even know how to describe it. We were ignored a lot, then when my parents fostered kids they suddenly wanted to impose all these rules and restrictions that didn’t exist before, then apparently I was responsible for all the other kids (I was 14). 7 kids. I made everyone stay in the living room if I had to watch them. I guess I was supposed to enforce the rules? I don’t know. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
My parents were more the; "Yell at them when they did something wrong" then the 'teach them the way it should be done before they fuck up' types.
Raaii · 22-25, F
[c=BF0000]yes and noh
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in short m childhood was an unfortunate one



It was painful
@Raaii My childhood was painful, too.
Flenflyys · 31-35, F
Very strict, very religious. I maintain a lot of those behaviours but only in practice, not in belief.
JustNik · 51-55, F
I was kept in line by judgment more than anything. My sister was the problem child and they sent her away so I always felt the need to be perfect and hide the parts of me that weren’t. The rules they had weren’t problematic for me.
G0ddess · F
Yeah I felt so suffocated living with them, I still remember my first night alone in a new country didn’t feel scary at all as I felt real freedom for the first time lol
Penny · 46-50, F
Lol no. I am a middle child. I ran wild. Got into a lot of personal trouble too but wouldnt have it any other way.
SubstantialKick · 31-35, M
Yep, exactly the same. My parents also didn't hesitate to use corporal punishment if they felt that it was necessary. Looking back, there were times when it really [i]wasn't[/i] necessary.
tiggerandariel13 · 41-45, MVIP
@latinbutterfly are you strict with your boys
@tiggerandariel13 Well not as much now, because they are in college and are hardly ever home, haha.
tiggerandariel13 · 41-45, MVIP
@latinbutterflyour 17 year old is a wlid child my 16 year old is calmer they're both girls
Chickie · F
I grew up in a deeply religious and strict household that I believe psychologically damaged me with a lot of abuse. It was hell.
@Chickie was the same for me and my sister.
Sazzio · 31-35, M
Yes but not religious wise. A toxic mother not showing love, affection and undermining/ verbally abusing me and my late sis... Do I blame her for my sis's death? Honestly, no... various other factors have been in play.
JovialMoose · 46-50, M
I grew up in a Catholic household. My mom (and possibly) dad had bad anxiety. She pushed that on us.

It stunted my maturity and relationships for years.

I've learned and grown. I tried not to do the same to my offspring.
Slade · 56-60, M
They tried to make it - I was much craftier than them 😁

Eventually my dad relented and admitted I was his Id. Which I had figured out already 😈
Pauline · F
Yes also a faith based kind of strict but not in an abusive way.
No
And I turned out ...


Wait...nevermind
HairbrushDiva · 31-35, F
My mum was a strict disciplinarian.
AlienFox · 36-40, F
No. It was just my mom and I. She was an introvert, artist and very connected with nature. She mostly was doing her own thing so I did mine. We lived in the boondocks and it was wonderful. I explored the woods and fields all day.

When I did see my dad it was a nightmare.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
If you mean by strict you mean physical punishment, then no. But, we were expected to do certain things in the house, and "proper" behavior was demanded. My parents pushed us academically,
Torsten · 36-40, M
strict and religious but once i got in my teen years, it was not strict at all. If i was honest about what i was doing and where i would be (within reason) i was normally always allowed to do it
Pretzel · 61-69, M
I didn't think so at the time - but given that I was brought up in the 50s and 60s it was pretty conservative.
@Pretzel Same for me except the 80s-90s.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
@latinbutterfly funny how things go. my conservative wouldn't be conversative to people growing up in the early 1900s. But they would have thought my parents were living in caves today :)
lonelyloner · 31-35, F
quite same here but Dad and grandfather was quite liberal to me as I was youngest in house but mom and elder sister were so strict
scooogy · 31-35, MVIP
My case was sort of like yours, but rather due to what people my mother grew up with outside of her family.
TrashCat · M
We had rules.
As long as my brother and I followed them' we were treated like a spoiled prince
maskedbandit · 56-60, M
No, not strict, but disciplined. I'm thankful for growing up in a loving family.
Yes, I grew up in a VERY strict family. I was afraid to take a step in any direction.
smiler2012 · 56-60
@latinbutterfly my dad was [god bless him ] my mam was nowhere near so it was like good cop /bad cop in a way
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Looking back on it, do you think they were correct about doing so?
@samueltyler2 Well when I was a kid there were times when I thought they were being unfair, but looking back I can't imagine where my siblings and I would be if it wasn't for them. There were definitely lots of negative influences that they managed to steer us away from.
DCGuy77 · 26-30, M
yes, me too grow up in such strict household and in a way, it was good..
We was DD and when i left home i continued this life style.
Yes. Like they almost don’t want me to go outside our house.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I did not grow up in a strict household.
InstructHer · 56-60, M
I did and was strict also with my daughter.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
Exactly the same situation here.
justlooking2023 · 51-55, M
How did it affect you?
@justlooking2023 Well, at times I thought they were being unfair. But as an adult I'm pretty grateful, because if it wasn't for them I don't want to imagine where my siblings and I might be today.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Nope. It was complete chaos.
Dawgsfan3 · 41-45, M
Not really for me
hunkalove · 61-69, M
@hunkalove South Lawndale, Chicago.
tenente · 100+, M
same but my parents had a choice they were just unfit parents
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