When someone you like blocks you

Ok.. as a veteran of being blocked.. I get blocked regularly by people i thought all was good with. even by people ive been friends with for years. Like talk on the phone kind of friends.

Even recently i got blocked out of nowhere. No sexual stuff occurred, but someone who i shared a deeply personal part of my life with, something i don't share at all publicly, and they were even in a very similar situation. It was a relief to be able to talk about that painful part of our lives together.

Then i went to reply to a pm, and pow! Blocked.

I used to get really hurt, and then angry, then felt like lashing out or contacting them from another account, to ask why or troll them or whatever. But now i just get hurt without any need to contact or confront them in anyway. The hurt passes much quicker than before as well.

This is my acceptance process.

If i cared about them. Thought they were good and kind and intelligent and a wonderful enough person for me to befriend and open up to, then i have to have faith.. or believe.. they had a good reason. That they were hurting in some way i didnt know about, and felt there was no way to address it with me, and because they rely on this site for adding light and healing to their life, they felt if they didn't block me. Seeing me would have been too difficult for them.

I have to trust that they know whats best for them, and because i care about them to begin with, though hurt and confused, i really want to still care for them. Hoping one day we will meet again as better stronger people and reconnect. Maybe we cant rebuild, but we can get clear and resolved with what happened somehow.

I know sounds like a hallmark card.. but its helped me. Also. I too have blocked people in the past and regretted it, and learned from it, and become a more emotionally mature person for it. So.. there you have it. The patent pending Coppercoil strategy for overcoming the hurt that cones from an unexpected block.

Also Fire, sometimes people have mood swings in an instant.
You know how sometimes we might be feeling great but then out of nowhere we perceive that someone is somehow rejecting us? Through no fault of yours, maybe he felt that way.

Like, "How come they gave that person a better response than what I got?" Yeah it is childish but I think most of us have felt that.

All you can do is focus more on the non-blockers. People who use it very sparingly.

I think lesson 101 in the online world is realising most people's actions are to do with what is going on with them and nothing that you did.
Guess we all fighting our own demons and first prize is not being collateral damage in someone's war with themselves.
Big loves to you ❤️

So sorry you experienced that. Actions like that used to take the air out of my lungs, especially after a good amount of time had gone by that we had gotten pretty close through sharing bits about our life. People are so fickle so it’s just something I got used to over time. I was forced to care less, which I guess I needed to begin with so I actually thank them for the correction in my energy that was needed. Which is why the last time it happened with a user I thought I had a decent bond with, I just shook my head and said oh well. People feel the need to protect themselves from things that can harm them, and if they suddenly see me as something capable of that then more power to that block button.

I don’t really care if people block me.

Surely they have their reasons. I may have annoyed them or upset them, unknowingly. We all respond in a way to protect our emotions. Blocking is their stress response. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve only ever been affected by a block once in my SW life. And that was because the person and I were close. And again, I understood that it was their stress response to avoid me (it’s complicated lol). I had to respect that.

Its happened to me too. I know it sucks but it sort of makes us appreciate the ones who still appreciate us even more.

I can’t deal with the BS from people. I don’t invest myself enough with people here anymore. That’s just the way it has to be.

I have been blocked for the silliest reasons, so I just consider the source, unstable people with issues. No great loss.

Yes people that block for no reason are a little annoying particularly when you've always got on well it leaves that niggling ''why?'' question but fingers crossed give it couple of days whatever it is they'll of calmed down and unblock you and try resolve the situation

Otherwise life is too short to be worrying about people that ain't even gonna tell you what their problem is, and the more stupid the reason the less likely they'll ever have the balls to explain it so the less likely they'll ever unblock you, more a reflection of them and their problems than it is of you love.
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If it’s a guy, the sw girlfriend probably made him do it.

There is only one person who has me blocked that kind of hurt my feelings. "the one you were warned about"

I do not have any words of wisdom but yes, it does bite when it happens.
Are you sure this person didn't leave sw?

Like I always say though, SOMEtimes when people block for no apparent reason, there is a chance they are trying to hide their online activities from their partner in real life.

This place is crowded with many past issues attacking them it is hard to imagine what might trigger anger or repulsion. Sometimes for me it is more hurtful when I am unfriended. It is like a demotion and causes me more consternation. I am sorry to hear that happened. It is obvious that the person have you some happy moments and that it was very unexpected.

Someone I was on okay terms with blocked me a little while ago and I think I know why, though ,I think it's politics.
I must have said something she didn't like about a certain politician, they saw it, and blocked.

I don't know how to really deal with these things I just move on.
Back in EP days I would have probably tried to talk to some of my other friends and see if they know why they blocked me ,but being a veteran of social media now , I find that usually causes more trouble than it's worth.

I befriended someone on this site a year or two ago and returned the favor by blocking me. Let's just say I didn't lose any sleep over it. Please don't let it get to you. The rules for being online are different than when you are off the computer.

I have to detach myself from people here..but with some, I just admire them from afar.. there are some really genuine good people here .. but once it seems they know .. they might just see me as creepy and cut the rope .. it happens to EVERYONE on here ..

Easier said than done, but try to remember that when something like this happens, it speaks to who they are, not to who you are.

I just don’t get some people on here …. Just block that person too…..and don’t ever look back !
Hugs!!

Well, I had a friend here, we got along great, had some great conversations, and then one day it came up that I had voted for Trump, way back when, and instantly she blocked me. I have never seen or heard from her since.
You just have to deal with peoples personalities here. It doesn't always make sense, but we just have to learn to deal with it.

You know a person who blocked me for no reason.... I'm still scratching my head over that one but I'm certainly not gonna feel bad about it. Totally their loss 🤷‍♀️

I could accept it but I would've appreciated if I could know the reason why... instead of leave me guessing

It's hard cause it's like they don't care as you do about them. It's tough

That's a serious rejection of you on their part. They weren't the friend you thought they were. They likely did what they did without saying anything maybe because they couldn't stand up for themselves. Or maybe that reaction is just apart of the youth behavior. I'm not sure. Be thankful if nothing else that their false friendship is gone. This is my honest opinion, I hope you have a better day tomorrow;

I just remind myself there's always someone I'll get along with and enjoy chatting with. I'm sorry you're going through this. Hopefully things will look up soon.

shrug and move on. Truth is you never really get to know anyone on sites like this. It's quite possible the turmoil is on their end and not yours. Be glad for whatever positive interaction you have then let it go. There is no way to ask why you've been blocked so you'll just drive yourself crazy trying to puzzle it out.

It has happened a few times to me. I just remind myself they have something going on in their life right now that doesn’t include me. Maybe I’ll never know what it is but I can’t change who I am because of it. I silently wish them well and move on
Sorry this happened to you today but this is on them and not you.

You’re a really nice person, but if a single block hurts that much it might be good to dial it back a bit.

Time spent here should be positive. There’s certainly no reason to leave. Some people are going to be triggered by their day (or life) and you just caught them at the wrong moment. It’s not personal nor does it matter like real life.

I hope the rest of your day it better. 😊

When it happens i always blame myself and try to figure out what i did ,even when i did nothing wrong. You don't seem to take part in the bs that goes on here that alone makes people try harder to drag you down .Don't let them win.

I made the choice to no longer care about being blocked ...whoever does it has a reason ...I've been blocked a lot but I have also blocked a lot too ...even with those i grew close too and to be honest sometimes it's for the best ...

Relationships are never balanced. Usually one person needs it more, and when you realise that you also realise that one can end at any moment

Oh sweetie I’m so sorry. I know that hurts.

I don't know if this will help, but I am new here and will offer you a new SW alliance to help fill the gap! Time will tell if I am funny or not...

Yep it’s not a good feeling It’s just happened to me and didn’t know why, only had a few blocks and could understand them ,, setup and a joke taken wrong way, just move on and someone else will turn up to take their place.

So sorry ms. Fire.., (hugs)

this is why I'll always proofread my comments before pressing Enter, sometimes three times to make sure it conveys what I'm trying to get across..,

https://similarworlds.com/self/4262935-The-POWER-of-Words-Think-before-replying-it-might

That’s happened to me more than once and there’s an infinite number of possibilities as to why
Try to take it with a grain of salt

If they comment-blocked you, it was probably something in your post that put them off. The thing is though that you're probably better off without them. Do you really wish to be close friends with someone who will drop you for posting something they did not appreciate? Sadly, people like that aren't reliable. If it were me, I would take comfort from that.

No advice but I know that shitty feeling and it sucks. I'm sorry you're experiencing that. 🫂

That is awful. I wonder what on earth they were thinking. Could it possibly have been an accident, hitting the wrong key?

My daughter has had some terrible experiences of being dropped and ghosted by longstanding friends. I wish I could reassure her that this does not happen in adult life, but it sadly does 😢

Not much you can do about it except try to keep going on with life. Sorry you're hurting.

You get thick skin after a while.

I think people are different, have different expectations and eventually move on due to boredom or something better.

Arms length works best for me