I don't think I can keep up

Okay 1st you're not supposed to have anything figured out or be anywhere in your age bracket, everyone depends on their family and tbh in this economy it doesn't stop.

I moved back with family twice in my 20s, and at one point my mental health was so bad that I couldn't leave the house or get in a car. I didn't know what I wanted to do or even believed in myself until I was 26-27. I got my first car through family, didn't get my license until late 20s, and most people struggle to rent on their own because of inflation.

Don't put yourself down before you've even started, you've literally got so much time to achieve all of that.

Make an action plan and it will give you agency in your life, really helped me. Do what you can to be who you'd like to be in small steps every day. https://similarworlds.com/life/5394443-This-is-for-whoever-needs-this-if-youre-feeling-stuck-or

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, Sarah. It sounds like you're carrying a lot of pain and self-doubt right now, and I want you to know that you're not alone. Even though it might not feel like it, what you're experiencing is something many people go through, and it doesn’t make you weak, bad, or broken. It makes you human.

You’re not a failure. You’re someone who’s hurting, and that’s not the same thing. The fact that you’re expressing these thoughts shows strength, it means you’re still reaching out, still hoping for something better. That matters. You matter.

It’s okay to depend on others sometimes. Needing help doesn’t make you a burden, it makes you someone who’s trying to survive. And survival is brave. You’re not pathetic. You’re someone who wants to grow, to connect, to love and be loved. That’s not weakness. That’s a beautiful part of being alive.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, please consider talking to someone a therapist, a counselor, or even a trusted friend. You don’t have to carry all of this alone. There are people who care deeply and want to help you find your way through this.

You’re not going to hell. You’re not beyond hope. You’re someone with dreams, with a heart that still longs for connection and meaning. That’s not something to hate, it’s something to honor.

Good to see you back, but my heart breaks a little reading your words. You’re not a burden and you’re not a failure. The sea itself ebbs and flows and no one curses the tide for retreating. You’re still here, still breathing, still trying, and that’s already a quiet kind of bravery.

It’s no sin to be struggling; we all stumble through our own fogs and storms. Even the strongest oak needs the earth to hold its roots. You deserve kindness and patience as much as anyone, especially from yourself.

One day the mist will lift and you’ll find your own ground to stand on - a home, a heartbeat beside you, the independence you dream of. Until then, please know you’re not alone, and you’re not going to hell. You’re human, and you’re precious.

We all need time to figure ourselves out, some of us need a lot of time (I certainly did ). Try different plans, make mistakes, change your mind, all that is part of getting to know yourself and what you want to do in the world. It is a struggle for a lot of people but you'll get there. The main thing is give yourself a chance and then another chance, as many as you need.

You’re measuring yourself by - house, car, partner, independence. Those are milestones, not proof of worth. Tons of people in their 20s, 30s, even 40s live at home or rely on family especially after the last few rough years globally. It’s normal, not shameful.

I think you're being a little hard on yourself, just keep trying and evertyhing will fall into place!

Beware, you are expressing some frightening things does your school offer counselling?

Ur young yet!

Concentrate on the good things, not the bad.
Make a list of all of your good attributes. Everything from physical to mental. What are you good at?

18-21? A house and a car? Are you living in 80s?

That’s normal for a person your age, you’ve got to realise older adults have much more experience in adult life, it’s much easier for them. You’re just beginning, go easy on yourself.