What would you do if you found yourself in this situation?

A therapist who cannot heal herself is not a therapist!

Forgive your husband and your patient

“All too often, when we see injustices, both great and small, we think, That’s terrible, but we do nothing. We say nothing. We let other people fight their own battles. We remain silent because silence is easier. Qui tacet consentire videtur is Latin for ‘Silence gives consent.’ When we say nothing, when we do nothing, we are consenting to these trespasses against us.” – Roxane Gay

"Every time we witness an injustice and do not act, we train our character to be passive in its presence and thereby eventually lose all ability to defend ourselves and those we love.”

Rain fire. That’s what I’d do.

I ain't that "strictly by the book" heads are gonna roll!

It obviously becomes a conflict of interest. The therapist has to report this to her supervisor.

The question then becomes whether it's ethical for her to use this information to confront her husband. That's a more complex issue than one might think. She learned of the affair because a patient told her this information in confidence, not knowing (presumably) that her therapist was her lover's wife. On the one hand, that's clearly covered under patient confidentiality — if the woman was having an affair with someone else's husband, the therapist certainly couldn't inform that husband's wife about the affair.

That said, this is a personal issue for the therapist. Does patient-therapist confidentiality go out the window in this situation? It seems counter intuitive that the therapist cannot make use of information that intimately affects her own life.

Then there's the question of what should the therapist tell the patient. Does she just tell the patient that she can no longer be her therapist, or should she inform the patient why?

Very sticky situation.

Go home tell your husband you had a patient that day describe her some and say she said she is having an affair and just discovered she has an STD. Then say her patient was told she has had it for a few months she is scared to tell the men she has slept with.

Could she not fire the patient? Why would the confidentiality clause prevent her from saying anything to the patient?

On the other hand, while the confidentiality clause prevents her from telling the husband what the patient told her, it doesn't prevent her from using the information from the patient to really screw with the husband. He could be made to feel really uncomfortable. Who knows, he might even confess without ever realizing how the wife knew what she knew.

Tell her that she should end the affair and that she's a bad person, then slowly poison my husband.

Find another way to verify that your husband is cheating on you

it's unethical to know a client's personal details. A therapist should never ask who she had an affair with.

And as a therapist myself, I would just still treat it as I am unaware and let things blow up on its own.

If I work for a clinic, let my boss know about the situation and have her placed with a different therapist.

If I am independent of a clinic, explain to her the situation and recommend some other therapists for her to see.

Ask for a divorce. He doesn't need to know how I found out. I know and it's done. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Go see my own therapist.

It's a conflict of interest so ,have to stop councling the woman.
No explanation..but "I know the man you mentioned and am no longer ethically able to council you further"...
would be given.
As long as I didn't give out her name I would confront my husband and tell him I know about his affair.
Then I'd divorce him.

Time for some gaslighting?

I want to read that article lol

A friend of mine was collecting Viagra monthly from his GP.
He was having an affair with his doctor's wife at the time.
After a few months whilst collecting his latest supply of Viagra the doctor looked at him and said 'Its my wife isn't it'?
My friend changed his GP the next day.

Why torture yourself anymore ? Dismiss the client and decide what you are going to do with your marriage . It’s going to take some work and time to get through this

“I can no longer see you due to conflict in interest. You have recently become a part of my personal life and therefore can no longer be my patient”

This is easily solved. She just needs to find out when the next meeting is between them, and then show up. She doesn't have to say anything to anyone about it.

Tell her to seek another counsellor. Inform her you have become aware of a previously unknown ethical conflict that you cannot discuss.

@SilentObZerver so your Bank Manager takes your deposit looks at you and says I will put this to good use spends it all on himself your ok with that?

Why would she need to tell anyone? She can take action without disclosing why. But a very interesting what if.

That would be a tough call. I think the therapist should suggest her client find a different therapist.

Yikes! I might need to see a therapist myself if I were in that position.

Daily mail trash as usual

Yeah like the hubs wouldn’t be confronted

Atleast she will get inside information

I would be frustrated wondering why

Gaslight her!?

Oops tricky

Ouch