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What were one of the meanest things your parents/parent did ?

I adopted an rescue bunny in 2016 , he had health issues , he had to be on an hay only diet for weeks , he had to have tones of mite treatmeants , I paid for all of this out of my own money. He were my bunny , I never relied on my parents. He passed away an year after. I have many stories about his antics. I became very depressed the morning I woke up for school to find him laying there dead. I cried for an whole day. I became physically ill that day. My dad just said I will take you to get another rabbit. I couldnt get out of bed. I cried that much I fell asleep. My dad agressively banged on my bedroom window constantly. After I ignored him banging on my door. Shouting and swearing. Calling me an lazy And other names I cant say on here. It contuined for over two hours. I went to school the next day. I still dont forgive him for that.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
My father was sadistic. We had a nanny milk goat that was my sister’s pet goat. Came home from school (she was in 4th grade) and the goat was hanging up outside on the door to the cellar and he was butchering her for us to eat. He had money for meat but wanted to drink the money up. He did much worse to us later on. Killed my mother was the worst thing.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@OogieBoogie He got by with so much that he should have been sent to prison for
@cherokeepatti man that's scary.
It makes you wonder why someone like that even [i]became [/i] a parent in the first place [b]why[/b]?.and then you realize it was just social expectation.

Your experience just shocks me. I can't even imagine the poisonous mind of a person like that's just wrong .
Slade · 56-60, M

Gòod Lord!
Fairydust · F
Criticising my physical appearance 😞
Pretty much just neglect and beat downs. Slaps belts whips you name it.
When I was age 6 thru 9, my mom often made me bare knees kneel in the corner on dried navy beans for an hour.
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@LoneVoice That's child abuse. Done frequently over that period of time would surely warrant an intervention by the authorities responsible for child welfare.
@ninalanyon There was no such thing as child abuse in the 1960's and there were no authorities, at least not in Appalachia. The only authorities were parents.
Luckylu · 61-69, F
My parents signed a paper when I was in 5th grade giving permission for me to be part of a track meet. I was one leg of a relay team. On the day of the meet my parents decided to go somewhere else. They said I couldn’t go until I reminded them of the paper they signed. They dropped me off and took by brothers with them leaving me there alone. I competed and remember looking into the stands as I ran hoping they were there cheering me on. They weren’t.
When I was around 5 or 6, mr mother left me and my sister in the care of a man we didn't know one night while she went out with friends. This man woke me from my sleep to molest me.
Slade · 56-60, M
@DreamyCrush ugh!

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@OldMan70 I don’t think so. By the next morning I must've thought I dreamt it, or I didn't think she would believe me. Later on when I was about 12 or 13, one of her boyfriends was asking me inappropriate questions, like if I'd ever been kissed, had a boyfriend, etc. and when I told my mother about it, she blew it off like he didn't mean anything by it.
Blondily · F
My list is long. Mom was bitter due to circumstances she went thru when she was younger. She would say unkind things to me, comparing me to my older half sister constantly. Found out recently that she had given a baby up for adoption. She would taunt me saying aren't you glad I never gave you up for adoption or aborted you? I didnt realize why she said it at the time. My dad was indifferent, rarely spoke to me.
@Blondily You give out love and joy x
Blondily · F
@jackjones68 🤗🤗🤗
@Blondily Hugs back x
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I have a whole list of mean shit my mom did. She was negligent, abusive, verbally cruel, and selfish af.
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BABALOO64 · 41-45, M
StarLily · 51-55, F
Mock me when I was sad/upset about something.
TrashCat · M
M parens hid our Christmas presents all around our house. I wanted a foosball table so bad. I found it in the attic under a blanket. My stupid ass brother told my parents I found it when we were eating dinner. My mom and dad looked at each other and my dad (obviously lying) said, oh we're holding it for a neighbors kid. I was sure I was going to get it and on Christmas day, it wasn't there. I resigned myself to the fact that they were telling the truth. A couple of years later, my mom told me that my dad was super pissed that I snooped so he brought it back to the store to teach me a lesson. I never snooped again and if I did, i never said anything to my brother 😡
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@TrashCat Weird decision by your father. Surely a bit of snooping is traditional? Seems like an out of proportion reaction.
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Disgustedman · 61-69, M
Mom made fun of Dad's thought of going to see a psychiatrist for some reason.

Two days later he hung himself.
calicuz · 51-55, M

Some of the "old ways" make me so angry.
I'm very, very sorry you lost your father in that manner. No child deserves to grow up with that pain inside.
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
[quote] I still dont forgive him for that.[/quote]
As I read somewhere recently forgiveness is for the benefit of the forgiver not the forgiven. It allows you to move on, to stop the repeated thoughts eating away at you and distracting you from [i]your [/i]life.

This isn't what I read before but it expresses the same idea:
[quote]Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you. It also doesn't necessarily mean making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that allows you to focus on yourself and helps you go on with life.[/quote]
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@NativePortlander It is not necessary that you tell the offender that you forgive them.

[quote]You don’t have to tell the person you’ve forgiven them

One misconception about forgiveness is that you have to tell the other person that you’ve forgiven them. The fact of the matter is: It’s a personal decision whether you tell them or not, and telling them is not part of the actual forgiveness process.

Some people think that telling the person you forgave them means you’re saying that what they did was okay, but it really just means you’re healing.

Before you make a decision about telling them, think about the potential outcome. The person could be thrilled and change their behavior or they may even admit they didn’t know they offended you.

So, what's the best thing to do? It is not recommended that people go back and say ‘I forgive you,’ unless they feel that’s part of their healing or that they need to say that in order to repair the relationship.[/quote]
NativePortlander · 51-55
@ninalanyon Have you ever been betrayed so heinously, specially by blood kin, that it felt like forgiving them would be a betrayal to yourself?
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@NativePortlander No. But my assertion still stands and is supported by lots of academic, religious, ethical, and medical sources.
exexec · 61-69, C
My parents were never mean. It was a tradition every Christmas for me to get a box of chocolate covered cherries, my favorite candy. One Christmas, I unwrapped the box, and instead of candy, it had a small rock in each of the little cups. My father couldn't resist, so he ate a couple of pieces and decided to play a joke on me. The candy was in a bag that they gave me later.
Luckylu · 61-69, F
@exexec my dad was the practical joker at Christmas. He would place a tiny present in a large box and put a brick or rock in it to make it heavy. He would use lots of tape because he knew I tried unwrapping the presents without tearing the paper. He made it impossible to do that.
4meAndyou · F
There was quite a bit. But it does absolutely NO GOOD for me or anyone to dwell on it. It's better by far to let the negativity from the past float away...forgive it, and then forget it. Accept that there are imperfect or sick or cruel parents in the world, and you might have been hurt, but remember that now you are alive, and free.
Classic Eastern European father. Mentally and physically abusive.

Meant well but was broken by his father so I get it.
Fairydust · F

Snowball effect from generations 😢, sorry you went through that. Good you understand and can change it for your kids. 😌
@Fairydust all about breaking that cycle. 🙏
Fairydust · F

💯 🥰
GlitterEater · 36-40, F
The first thirteen years of dealing with my father was basically just violence and threats of violence..
calicuz · 51-55, M
Not so much mean, but more of a lacking. They sent me out into the world with nothing more than religion. I'm sure they thought "God," would take care of me and everything, but that really wasn't enough. They literally taught me nothing except for my manners, which I am grateful for, but everything else I've had to learn on my own.
JaggedLittlePill · 41-45, F
My mother really, for some reason, was convinced I was a terrible kid doing bad things. I think because i never talked to her and spent all of my time with friends. This was because my drunk step dad was an abuser and I was sick of it.

1. She went through my things because she found out I had a Black boyfriend.

2. She read notes from friends and my diary out loud to me so i could explain everything she didn't understand.

3. She threatened to tell my grandfather I was dating outside my race. So he would "disown me" he was important to me and she knew this.

I proceeded to tell my grandfather myself. He didn't give a fuck. She lost. I believe that was when my mother realized she wasn't going to bully me.

My mother did change. We struggle but I was able to get through to her. She no longer holds those terrible beliefs.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
That’s terrible!!! 😳
So sorry. 😞
MethDozer · M
My parents weren't perfect and when we pushed it could be fury but I wouldn't call either of them mean or cruel. Just if you pushed to far and ignored the warning you were going to get it. I'm fine with it all.

Most if not all of my insecurities as a child came from both having to work and at times feeling abandoned or alone because of it. Especially when it came to my mom.
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