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What were one of the meanest things your parents/parent did ?

I adopted an rescue bunny in 2016 , he had health issues , he had to be on an hay only diet for weeks , he had to have tones of mite treatmeants , I paid for all of this out of my own money. He were my bunny , I never relied on my parents. He passed away an year after. I have many stories about his antics. I became very depressed the morning I woke up for school to find him laying there dead. I cried for an whole day. I became physically ill that day. My dad just said I will take you to get another rabbit. I couldnt get out of bed. I cried that much I fell asleep. My dad agressively banged on my bedroom window constantly. After I ignored him banging on my door. Shouting and swearing. Calling me an lazy b..ch. And other names I cant say on here. It contuined for over two hours. I went to school the next day. I still dont forgive him for that.
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ninalanyon · 61-69, T
I still dont forgive him for that.
As I read somewhere recently forgiveness is for the benefit of the forgiver not the forgiven. It allows you to move on, to stop the repeated thoughts eating away at you and distracting you from your life.

This isn't what I read before but it expresses the same idea:
Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you. It also doesn't necessarily mean making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that allows you to focus on yourself and helps you go on with life.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
@ninalanyon Forgiving the unforgivable gives the offender notice that what they did was ok, to where they will keep offending. In many instances it's not wise to forgive.
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@NativePortlander1970 It is not necessary that you tell the offender that you forgive them.

You don’t have to tell the person you’ve forgiven them

One misconception about forgiveness is that you have to tell the other person that you’ve forgiven them. The fact of the matter is: It’s a personal decision whether you tell them or not, and telling them is not part of the actual forgiveness process.

Some people think that telling the person you forgave them means you’re saying that what they did was okay, but it really just means you’re healing.

Before you make a decision about telling them, think about the potential outcome. The person could be thrilled and change their behavior or they may even admit they didn’t know they offended you.

So, what's the best thing to do? It is not recommended that people go back and say ‘I forgive you,’ unless they feel that’s part of their healing or that they need to say that in order to repair the relationship.
https://mygrandstrandhealth.com/blog/entry/how-to-forgive-someone-even-when-it-feels-impossible
@ninalanyon Have you ever been betrayed so heinously, specially by blood kin, that it felt like forgiving them would be a betrayal to yourself?
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
@NativePortlander1970 No. But my assertion still stands and is supported by lots of academic, religious, ethical, and medical sources.