If you're mixed then you belong in two races. At least I would think so. I think it might be fun. You get to belong to two groups in stead of just one.
@Cloud7593 The people who are in the two races don't typically view the mixed person as "one of them." It's not fun. They're viewed as "not quite one of us."
You might tell them that “mulatto” is a slave term and that you’re not a slave. Nobody descended from slaves in the U.S. is pure African, and anyone who thinks they are needs to get their DNA checked. I’m biracial and my 1960 birth certificate says
Mother: Caucasian Father: Negro Child: Negro
So when anyone, black or white, tries to tell me who they think I am, they get cussed out. It’s not a club and you can’t be kicked out.
It is NOT okay for them to say that. No race defines who you are as a person. If you have people telling you otherwise walk away and don't look back. You're beautiful the way you are.
You are the best of 2 words ,not defined by you're skin . If no one embraces who you are ,thats their loss ,not your's Just be you ,let them figure out whats wrong with them . there must be something that they think the color of their skin makes them better then you . I have 3 Grandchildren that are mixed ,and a nephew and a niece 5 of the prettiest kids on the planet ..
They all fit in whatever world they want ,,everyone loves them And since all the Grandparents get along too , no one is pumping their heads full of any crap ,,they just know they are loved
@DecafD The little girl in the bottom pic used to wish's her hair was straight like her Moms ,,but they are all a little older then these pic's (I didn't feel like uploading any current ones ),but you can see they are all gorgeous kids But she is so pretty she gets lots of attention. Their Mom is fine so she blows cruel people off like gum on her shoe ,Her current man is Italian and you can say his son is mixed too ,,but another great looking kid . She is not so concerned about how hard it is to do her hair anymore . She has a lot of styles she goes with now ,she is super smart and popular too . The world is her oyster as they say ,,I bet you no one hurts her by saying cruel things about which race she belongs to ,, That will be just one less person she gives the time of day to .
Don’t let other people define who you are. They can have their opinion but if they were smart they’d keep it to themselves instead of making critical remarks.
You don't need to be offended by other people, you are what you are and you can say what you like about it
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It bothers me too. I'm told that I can't claim to be anything but white since I don't look Asian despite being half. However, I think it's true. Mixed comes with it's own experience that "full" isn't going to understand. And it's possible that being mixed prevents fully understanding. Maybe it's better not to argue with them about it.
@SW-User I get that and I never argue that I have it or experience things the same as being full. I’m just so dumbfounded when it happens that I can’t say much. People make rude comments if I eat and like the food or understand the language and can say a few things back as if their culture was so secret and reserved only for pure breeds. But also best believe if you or I ever got famous- those haters would be the FIRST to be like omg that’s my people! Lol
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout yeah, but I’m not a pentathlon ...I’m just 2 races. I don’t say I’m Irish-Scot, Vietnamese and a pinch of Malaysian. I literally say my mom is this and my dad is that.
To answer your question short and precisely: No, it's not ok.
On the other site I understand you so well. My son is "mixed" too and has often the same problems. And honestly: I don't have a good solution what to say back. Because most of those people are that silly and stubborn that - whatever you say - doesn't reach them in their mind. 😐️
@Loretta78 yeah- I never thought of just considering the source...that it wouldn’t reach them anyways. This will help calm me down in the future. Thank you!
What matters more to you, the race that someone says that you are or the race that you feel you are inside???
Seems to me that your priorities aren't quite as straight as they should be. Just because someone says something, it doesn't make them an expert or anything that they say truthful. Case in point... I regularly get called stupid around here. Am I really stupid??? Only if your mind is so closed that you are unable to see things from someone else's angle...
@HootyTheNightOwl it’s not about the race that someone’s says vs what I feel. It’s about many people in my lifetime telling me that I’m not what I am...like I’m this dirty and tainted thing that no one wants to claim. You have a good point - I am ultimately responsible for my mindset here, which I do a pretty good job at covering up feelings in the moment, but clearly bc I wrote this post I have some work to do on myself.
screw all manner of 'gatekeeping'. You are who you are, you define it, not them. Not much pisses me off more than 'you're not REALLY (whatever) because of (whatever)'. Recently saw someone tell someone else they weren't really christian because they were okay with LGBT. Been told myself that i'm not REALLY trans because my boobs are small (yup, really).
I'd love to say don't let it bother you, but...hell with them!. Somebody elses opinion doesn't make you less of you.
@DecafD It took me a while to realize it. I was told I was or wasn't so many things growing up. It was an amazing feeling when I finally said "Yeah, I'LL decide, thank you".
