Anyone ever conquer social anxiety?

I think most of us here on SW have social anxiety to some degree, but for different reasons. Mine is not from a feeling of "not being enough" as you put it.

Rather, mine comes from a feeling of dread in large crowds. I can't go to concerts because I notice this person and notice that person and for whatever reason I perceive them as threats. My "spidey" sense are on overload in crowds.

As for overcoming social anxiety, I'm afraid I can't be much help there. In my case, I've adjusted my life around it. I don't go to concerts.

To a lesser degree, I also have issues in clubs and bars. But my financé and I love dancing so I struggle through it. She knows all about my issue and helps tremendously when she notices the signs on my face. But the struggle is real.

I still have it but it's better than it used to be. Being older and earning my own money was a big factor in it. It helped me to realize that people I saw before as some sort of authority are just workers. For example I used to feel very inadequate entering certain stores and trying on clothes because I knew I didn't look posh enough and also I wouldn't even buy anything for that price. Now I don't care how I look as long as I know that I can afford to buy their stuff. Also, I know that most probably not even the shop assistants buy in those price rangers on a regular basis. They just work there so if I feel like they look down at me, I don't even need to pay attention to it.

As for job interviews, I'm still scared. I don't feel qualified at all for anything and don't know how to fake the confidence in my abilities. I don't know how to navigate it all and I'm also aware that my future depends on their decision to accept me or not. But I guess that's more of performance anxiety than social anxiety.

My first dance recital...now that was social anxiety. My Marine Daddy told me it's not what you do out there that matters at this moment, but that you went out and did it... to the best of your ability. He said "GUTS" were better than glory.

yeah. I know what would work for me is probably working out and improving my appearance. Which I do religiously but due to my frail mental state it has no effect. I'm stuck in what you call a rut. I can't fault myself for not trying.

I used to sort of have it, till I realised I just dislike having to put up with people, even people I sort of like. Once I find that one thing about them that irritates me I just want to be alone.

You need someone empathic to you, on your same wavelength if you like. They can shield you.

Small steps, it will get easier.

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