Anyone ever conquer social anxiety?

I figured out why I decline dates or chances to meet anyone new or even reunite with old friends from years ago. I'm panicked that I'm not enough, and that if I get nervous in front of them, I'll be severely judged and soon rejected. Or that I'll feel so panicked I'll have to leave 😞
I am working constantly on how to not fear judgement but when you've felt subhuman for a decade, it's REALLY hard to not fear it. Any tips or similar experiences?

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sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

I think most of us here on SW have social anxiety to some degree, but for different reasons. Mine is not from a feeling of "not being enough" as you put it.

Rather, mine comes from a feeling of dread in large crowds. I can't go to concerts because I notice this person and notice that person and for whatever reason I perceive them as threats. My "spidey" sense are on overload in crowds.

As for overcoming social anxiety, I'm afraid I can't be much help there. In my case, I've adjusted my life around it. I don't go to concerts.

To a lesser degree, I also have issues in clubs and bars. But my financé and I love dancing so I struggle through it. She knows all about my issue and helps tremendously when she notices the signs on my face. But the struggle is real.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@sarabee1995 That's so interesting because even though I occasionally get a little nervous in crowds, it's much lower on my list than one on one with someone new. Or even a small group of new people..I'm fine with people I've known as I feel safe. But one on one I get panicky that I'll get VISIBLY panicked, and that they'll think I'm a pitiful person. It really sucks. I guess I need to conquer not caring if I did get VISIBLY nervous...and just find ways to challenge that negative belief. That's awesome you still confront your fear to dance. 🌸

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

@Coralmist Yeah, one-on-one I'm fine. Even in front of a crowd like public speaking, I'm fine. But put me in the crowd and my spidey senses go on overload. 🤷‍♀