Anyone ever conquer social anxiety?

I figured out why I decline dates or chances to meet anyone new or even reunite with old friends from years ago. I'm panicked that I'm not enough, and that if I get nervous in front of them, I'll be severely judged and soon rejected. Or that I'll feel so panicked I'll have to leave 😞
I am working constantly on how to not fear judgement but when you've felt subhuman for a decade, it's REALLY hard to not fear it. Any tips or similar experiences?

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StygianKohlrabi · M

yeah. I know what would work for me is probably working out and improving my appearance. Which I do religiously but due to my frail mental state it has no effect. I'm stuck in what you call a rut. I can't fault myself for not trying.

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StygianKohlrabi · M

@Coralmist thanks. I have often felt like an outcast because of my appearance so it's hard for me to get used to hearing that.

anyway I agree with you that our upbringing affects us more than people think. if you feel comfortable try to seek out low pressure group functions to attend.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@StygianKohlrabi you don't look like an outcast at all. I wish I knew which groups to attend. I joined a group meetup online even though just joining made me nervous. 😮 But apparently people have said no one has facilitated a meetup in many months.

StygianKohlrabi · M

@Coralmist I can recommend Zumba if you like to dance 🪩. Or yoga. I take both at a low cost gym. those are classes that will put you in contact with other people at least, with no pressure. good luck.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@StygianKohlrabi Thanks 🌟