Why should we feel good about ourselves...

Reasons to like ourselves are that we are good people, we care about others, we like ourselves. We need to really love ourselves and be comfortable with that.

Honestly I find it’s more stressful to dislike myself and find negativity in myself and others than not. The negativity and dislike just sit inside us and breed resentment and sadness = depression and mental.physical health problems. I refuse to allow that to happen and although I do have my moments as we all do I will always maintain a positive mindset to get me through everything

I have many thoughts about self-love, if I may. first of all I am reminded of some lyrics from Pink Floyd " by the cold and religious we were taken in hand, shown how to feel good but told to feel bad", I do think christianity seems to teach self-loathing as being part of humility and servitude. so some of that is in all our colective uncouscience. I had trouble with self-love as a kid then someone thought me that self-love is like being your own best friend. treat yourself as you would treat your best friend. love is when the hapiness of someone is important to you. that's my definition of love, actually.

It takes a hell of a lot less mental energy to like something then to dislike it. It's more stressful to swallow something that tastes bad then tastes good or even just non-descript. Stress and expending mental energy hating yourself is really just a great way to be sick all the time and be tapped on energy forever. That's the practical argument.

No person comes out into this world hating themself or feeling like they don't deserve anything. They are told and made to feel that way by others. That's the philosophical argument, that it's not coded into being but learned dysfunctional behavior.

Now... Better question... Why try to like yourself anyway if you don't. You can change as is but... it takes accepting oneself to even begin the process of changing. Without acknowledging what you don't like, that rejected part will never change. Or maybe your criticisms of yourself lack substance or practicality. For me, as I've thought about this for myself before and use myself as an example, I learned the frameworks that made critism of me moot and invalid. I broke the logical basis of critism of me and made it purely emotional through a dose of knowing myself and how the frameworks of relationships and the body function.

Because if you don't like yourself, you may be more vulnerable to manipulation by others.

So that we do what's healthy and take care of ourselves and our body/health

Kinda hard for others to like you if you don't like you.
Mind be off-putting to others

Something I have struggled with because it has been beat in my head that I have nothing to like about myself 😔

Why shouldn't we? Really, unless you are a horrible person you have many redeeming, kind and giving qualities, so why not feel good about yourself?

Trust me, there's nothing good about me... regardless of what others may say...

Because.

I know this fealing well

Can't expect others to like us, if we don't like ourselves

We do the best with what we have. I guess I don't think in terms of "liking" oneself or not. I concluded that I do the best I can with what I have. I know that even THAT will not satisfy everyone, so bottom line is you cannot get caught up in that philosophical tail-chaser because there's no real way to prevail.

i'm not sure that we should. i've found happiness by not doing this. the only time i'm really comfortable in my skin, really at ease, is when i'm not future worrying or past regretting or beating myself up for self-perceived weaknesses or failings. when i'm in the moment, not happy, not sad, not anxious or on guard: that's when i'm at my best. just experiencing life happening around me without any fear or joy or anything really. and that's why i don't try to balance how i feel about myself, i just let go and dismiss myself altogether.


same and i don't think i will ever be able to reprogram myself