Why should we feel good about ourselves...

More than disliking ourselves?

I know intellectually it is good to like oneself because then we can give more when WE feel good.

(I was drilled though to never like anything about myself. That I was selfish).
But what might be some other reasons to actually like yourself?

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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

I have many thoughts about self-love, if I may. first of all I am reminded of some lyrics from Pink Floyd " by the cold and religious we were taken in hand, shown how to feel good but told to feel bad", I do think christianity seems to teach self-loathing as being part of humility and servitude. so some of that is in all our colective uncouscience. I had trouble with self-love as a kid then someone thought me that self-love is like being your own best friend. treat yourself as you would treat your best friend. love is when the hapiness of someone is important to you. that's my definition of love, actually.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@reflectingmonkey Those are great points. Sacrificing ones joy seems to be a theme in Christianity. But also my mom was sadistic so if I was reading or feeling good she would scream at me and say Oh lucky you having a PARTY??? (just eating dinner)... and make me feel shame for ANY joy. It crippled me and I feel I have no right to my own self even.