Why should we feel good about ourselves...

More than disliking ourselves?

I know intellectually it is good to like oneself because then we can give more when WE feel good.

(I was drilled though to never like anything about myself. That I was selfish).
But what might be some other reasons to actually like yourself?

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Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

Reasons to like ourselves are that we are good people, we care about others, we like ourselves. We need to really love ourselves and be comfortable with that.

Honestly I find it’s more stressful to dislike myself and find negativity in myself and others than not. The negativity and dislike just sit inside us and breed resentment and sadness = depression and mental.physical health problems. I refuse to allow that to happen and although I do have my moments as we all do I will always maintain a positive mindset to get me through everything

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Jenny1234 Ty friend 🌹 Those are great reasons..and I don't think i would feel selfish. I grew up many years being severely ridiculed daily that I was selfish for even TALKING some days. I was shamed Just taking up space. It was hell. So its hard to really like me and not feel selfish. I appreciate your reply🫂

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

@Baybreeze I’m so sorry you were treated that way growing up. Please know their behaviour and parenting style is NOT because you did anything wrong! It is only a reflection of themselves and unhealthy behaviour and perhaps they were raised in a toxic environment and didn’t know how to be a real parents.

Have you ever spoken to them about their childhoods and also how they raised you?

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Jenny1234 well it was mainly my mom who is a malignant narcissist. SHE Even said she had no discipline growing up. She has had no consequences or empathy or whole life. She is cruel and when i have told her how her horrible treatment of me ruined ny esteem beyond measure..she will deny it and scream and say With all I sacrificed??? She sacrificed zero. Literally. I truly appreciate you saying it was not my fault 💓

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

@Baybreeze it’s good that your told her how it affected you though.