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Be Honest How Bad Can Your Temper Get?

My biggest defence is words and mouth and not as in shouting. If I feel myself elevating to the level of temper I will retreat to headphones and music to calm down rather than buy into it and confront within a relationship. Outside of that I will meet what is thrown at me.
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
I'm like an F5 tornado and when I get that way...I run my mouth. To stop myself when I can... I completely shut down and stop talking to everyone.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
Azlotto · M
@LilPrincess I think Radio Shack sold F5 tornado kits.
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
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Depends how close I am to inner peace.

Working with troubled students, I could not afford to lose my calm.

So I always had to act quickly, avoid confrontation, deflect, use humour and move on. Looking in the distance helped, as did breathing slowly. Shouting would achieve nothing, so lowering my voice helped. Thinking as I speak. A smile always helps.

As a boy I had to witness verbal and physical abuse. Retreating into my room, listening to music, singing, playing the piano, or going for a walk, being friends with nature, enabled me to move on, seeing my friends, an only child.

I’m naturally very calm, but in the past I’ve had to learn techniques to deal with confrontational situations. The Zen masters have a lot to offer, so do the writers of the Psalms. The image a fountain, or running water helps.

I’ve always been able to resort to humour, my best defender, deflector and my friend.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@sunriselover you exercise control and I can relate to the humour and music very well..👌
Badmaster · 61-69, M
Bad temper that I've spent more life trying to keep locked up rather than let out. Almost killed a guy in a bar fight and pushed a pool table through the wall at the bar.
It was time to change
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Badmaster Is that so..🤔
Badmaster · 61-69, M
@Primnproper I would hope. And from the "Doms"I've seen,heard of,I'm unique
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Badmaster maybe, maybe not..lol
I have a very bad temper but I hide it well. Unfortunately I fear what may happen if I ever lose control, however I also fear what might happen if I don't lose control. Either way someone is likely to get hurt.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@istillhaveanameitsrick hahhha..is it being long hours alone that can build up the frustration?
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Primnproper · 56-60, F
@istillhaveanameitsrick yes I just looked at one of your posts.
mooncrest02 · 31-35, F
I get frustrated and overwhelmed and always try to remove myself to be alone but their have been a few times my partner wouldnt let me leave and when I felt cornered I threw stuff to get away.
Fairydust · F
I’m normally pretty calm ☺️
I tend to not get angry much, I’m good at keeping myself under control, I can explode though if my buttons get pushed too far. 🤯
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
I’d compare it to an eruption of Mount Vesuvius, if it weren’t for the fact that when I’m really angry, I get very very quiet. Usually I walk away, calm myself and only then return to address the conflict.
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
@Primnproper The wisdom of age and experience
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@blackarcher256 can be a blessing..🙂
blackarcher256 · 61-69, M
@Primnproper Truth!
JustNik · 51-55, F
It’s a rare thing for me but just flashes. If it’s directed at someone near me, I leave or swallow it. I will not be sensible if I speak, and there’s usually more to what I’m mad about than the part that’s making me mad. If it’s directed at something else, there will be a short tirade, and then I move on to greener pastures.
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
I rage. But I do it alone.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@AlchemyFox that’s fair enough if you can do that.
RenFur · 70-79, M
These lyrics don't exactly relate to anger but something equally troubling. Maybe not, but when you said you "retreat to headphones and music" you reminded me of this tune by Benny Goodman:

Primnproper · 56-60, F
@RenFur 🤗….yes music has saved me on many occasions whether it through hurt, despair or anger.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Degbeme 😂😂 steady on there sunshine!
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Primnproper That is basically me. I don`t shout, scream throw things.... I just simmer.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Degbeme that’s a great trait if you can do it.👍
smiler2012 · 56-60
@Primnproper 🤔 rather how far the person wants too take me they keep on at me and provoke me too the point i will blow
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@smiler2012 So would you let yourself be drawn to that point?
smiler2012 · 56-60
@Primnproper not as much as i use too my mam can make me lose it sometimes but i always feel guilty afterwards
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@smiler2012 I can understand that.
I don't have a temper. There are other ways.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@NoThanksLeon straight away i pictured Louis Armstrong and his trumpet! 😂
@Primnproper People who know they are more than capable of defending themselves from any attack do not need a physical or any outward display of anger.
WE just smirk, move on and consider our attacker lucky.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@NoThanksLeon Absolutely! 👍
Summerbreeze45 · 46-50, F
Unfortunately , my temper goes from 0 to 1000 in a millisecond! I see red! I’m trying to change that but easier said than done.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Summerbreeze45 yes it can be difficult to control.
My tongue gets the better of me. I don't have the temper enough to punch something
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@mindlessdrifter yea that’s me too..my mouth is probably my worst although some would say it’s my silence. Lol
@Primnproper I can definitely relate
TheFragile · 46-50, M
I really don't have a bad temper. I keep my mouth shut and my anger bottled up inside me.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@TheFragile That’s not always a good thing though is it?
TheFragile · 46-50, M
@Primnproper not always.
Lilymoon · F
If I start throwing things you better run. lmao
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Lilymoon That explains all the cds in the back seat. 🤔
Lilymoon · F
@Degbeme 🤬
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Lilymoon just sayin .... 😬
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
I’m pretty even tempered so never get too angry or too elated.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@SageWanderer That’s a good way to be..
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
If I'm pushed too far it's not pretty that's all I'm going to say.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Justmeraeagain oops...creeps away! 😆
It isn’t pretty so I don’t allow it to come out.
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Primnproper · 56-60, F
@jshm2 Thats very lucky then.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I try to find ways to calm myself down, think rationally about what I am angry about, and then have a discussion about it, rather than just yell at the person.

But that does not always work, and sometimes I can explode.
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
I try never to get angry amongst strangers because there are too many evil and crazy people who become triggered and evil when prompted….
Houdini · 56-60, M
It can get very bad if needed. But now days I get more frustrated with things. I tend to just walk away or go for a drive somewhere
TakeCare87 · 36-40, M
Road rage bad, but it takes a lot to get me there
Bad enough to make me sick...
Convivial · 26-30, F
Incredibly mellow...
Azlotto · M
I don't have a very bad temper, but I never forgive and I never forget.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Azlotto that can be alot to carry around but I get it!
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Bad. I have much more power over it than I had before, but that might be a subjective illusion stemming from my amount of give-a-shit having shrunk immensely.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
My mouth gets me in trouble but when I am really mad I just get silent.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@iamonfire696 👍 me too.
empanadas · 31-35, M
I learned to be calm in the vast majority of the sistuionships but the more piss I get the thick the new York accent gets.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@empanadas I can imagine.lol
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Primnproper · 56-60, F
@HumanEarth but you got there in the end..
HumanEarth · 56-60, F
I always got picked on and bullied. But I was that one kid that stood up to them and fought back.

I got my ass kicked a lot.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@HumanEarth good for you though..👍
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Primnproper · 56-60, F
@Morvoren okay that qualifies but then you were protecting yourself.👍

 
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