I am in the minority view, I know, but I don't think there is anything wrong with any age gap as long as both are in agreement.

I have always loved much older men.

Risk is a part of life and learning.

When an adult age is just a number. I have dated someone that was 30 yrs older than me.

When the society dictates the rules there's not really any choice. The lines are drawn by the society.

Cross it at your own peril!

There's is no problems if the society isn't involved.

Age doesn't matter, gender doesn't matter, nor does multiple relationships matter either.

As long as the society doesn't get involved!

Look at the Zo é tribe of Brazil and see if their society could possibly be ever acceptable in western society?

Simply impossible!

It's a polygamist matriarchal society! Not a patriarchal monogamous society!

This is why they are a proscribed society. Western culture by itself would destroy the minor culture to shreds.

Now compare it to Islamic society! It's huge! Yet age difference doesn't matter either, despite it being absolutely patriarchal!

This is why there's a war going on in the middle east.

The societies are too different.

Same is applying here in the USA! Yet with a theological society!

Cross the line at your own peril!

Minors and adults are one thing.

But there seems to be a certain camp that seems hell bent on making every age gap relationship problematic and predatory which I think says more about them than anything else.


They also seem to ignore context entirely. I also noticed it often is only suddenly an issue and "predator" when a man is the older party.


And it gets particularly silly when you apply it to basically relationship norms from the 1990s or earlier and suddenly the majority of relationships are predatory.

Like congrats, you just turned your grandfather into a sexual predator.

If both people are consenting and genuinely care for eachothers wellbeing then noone elses opinion matters.

When I was 36 I dated a 24 year old. I could feel the age difference in the maturity level and knowledge level.

Similarly I dated an older man when I was 28 and he was 42? I think? I bet he felt the same thing, but to me he felt like my equal intellectually. I was closer in age to his teenage kids though. Oddly enough I was better at managing my own life than he was about managing his.

That's a pretty interesting question and the reasons people give for why it's not always ok even if everyone's a consenting adults. We're supposed to be living in an era where you do you as long as it's with a consenting adult. But suddenly there are these people who talk a great game about being open-minded, but come up with these exceptions. When they try to rationalize them, all I can hear is "it's not ok if I don't like it"
Oh and one such exception I heard was over extreme age gaps among consenting adults

Assuming, as you stated, both are adults, I wouldn't draw a line. When two people click, they click, and as long as both of them take a realistic look at what matters to them, then I'm all for whatever age gap works for them.

There's nothing wrong with happy, innocent age-gap relationships between consenting people(intentional word choice). People don't need government's permission to date. A case can be made for parental approval. Parental approval is a better and more valid idea than invalid, arbitrary legal lines that shouldn't exist, have no right to exist and only exist to violate young people's rights.

If it is a short term relationship it is never a problem. Long term, it is not a problem till it is a problem.

Generally speaking there isn't one. If you love someone you love them.

When its more then 6 weeks apart

When the physical capabilities and expectations don't match.

Who are you to “draw the line” for anybody else? MYOB.

Im in an age gap now its pretty cool!

When the Viagra runs out

There is no line 😉

The easiest matches are closer in age but my opinion is that unless you aren't particularly interested in a partner's mind or body, experiences or prejudices, limits should be practiced. Anything outside of about 5 years is kinda rough to handle.

Just a number

There’s a further @UnlikeableAndy age gaps or not there will always be problems. Generation gaps may create differences but the aim is to learn from each other and understand the differences.

If problem raise and you cannot find a solution, anything become a problem. age gaps also become a problem for that reason. for no reason

Just for fun do an internet search - - - - -

American Civil War widows who survived into the 21st century

I guess whenever our interests and physicality aren't on the same level

Women fall in love with what they hear.

Men fall in love with what they see.

Impossible to say, each situation and person is different

She is 23 and he is 16.....but forty years later it wouldn't matter.

Forget the 'gap'. In my case, AGE is a problem. 🤣

When it becomes a problem for either party.

Wherever you feel comfortable.

What are we talking about here?

Half your age plus seven is a pretty solid rule

It would depend on the individual.

It's never a problem

In court

I'm in my 40s and right now it's around early 60s for me - younger guy's have never really appealed to me especially if they're a lot younger, depending on their maturity. However, I don't judge other people for being in wide gap relationships though - it's their prerogative.

If you date a minor? That's a problem. A Chris Hanson problem. But other than that, if a legal adult is ok with dating an older partner then more power to them

if you are 90 and she is 17.5

When the age of one partner is 18 to 22 and the other is 10 years or more older.

What would a 30+ year old have in common with an 18 year old? That dynamic completely changes when the age gap is a 30 year old and a 45 year old. Both parties are a fully formed adult in every way.

Age gaps become a problem when one day you wake up to discover that you are an old guy who's being pushed around town in a wheelchair by a very young woman who use to have sex with you and who always looked 20 years younger than you did no matter how young you felt yourself.

Or, you are the very young woman who's pushing an old guy around town in a wheelchair who always looked 20 years older than you did no matter how much he tried to look younger, whom you use to have great sex with compared to those younger guys your own age who were still learning, but now you're the chosen one who's changing his diapers 4 times a day which you carry in a diaper bag slung over your shoulder and you realize that he doesn't remember any of it.

No line as long as they’re both adults