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Do you feel you've changed a lot in life?

I used to be on Experience Project and thinking back to those days, I realize how different I was then. Completely different. How about you? Have you changed much in the last 5 years or so? How so?
kodiac · 22-25, M
5 years ago i was still in foster care,the property of whatever lunatic family they stuck me with . Came out hardcore addict now I'm clean and sober living on my own.
@kodiac That's really amazing. I'm really proud of you! 🥲
kodiac · 22-25, M
@Angelwarfare Thank you!!
I've changed a LOT in the last 5 years or so. Age and injury have taken their toll. It's been necessary for me to make some major changes in my lifestyle involving my physical, mental and emotional diets and habits.

It's not been an easy transition. However, I know I shouldn't complain about getting old. It's a privilege denied to many.
@PhoenixPhail Now I am definitely going to have some steak on Friday, lol. Maybe not 9oz though! You've convinced me but it is going to be hard to wait now after your description! Mean. 🤣
@Angelwarfare Just find the cleanest one you can, and enjoy every delicious mouthful. And, don't have it too often. We're frugivores and not built for meat. But it sure is tasty every once in while. 😋 Enjoy. x
@PhoenixPhail Haha thank you, will do!
Yes. I was extremely bitter and unhappy for years, and I always had to have something with alcohol in it. I was funnier then. I’ve forgiven, accepted responsibility for my life, and calmed down a lot the past couple years. (I’m not as funny since I quit drinking, though. Or maybe drinking only made me think I was funny. 🤔)
@Colonelmustardseed

Lol, I think many people think they're funny with they drink. I used to think it removed my mental blocks so I could write more freely but it was hit or miss. I was never the type of person to drink all the time but would/do sometimes drown my sorrows with alcohol (binging is always a disaster fro me). I only allow myself to drink on Friday nights now in limited amounts. I should probably cut that out. I'm much better with weed (lots of depression/trauma so I need something and I won't take meds).
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Yes. I have started exercising more hard core. I have gained weight. I was single 5 years ago, I've learned lots about myself in this relationship. I've been through therapy twice and today my PTSD symptoms are much better. Except more nightmares. I'm able to take breaks and pause myself now, something that wasn't possible 5 years ago.
@Queendragonfly I never assume someone is lying (unless they're known liars). That's gotta be rough. I've wondered about myself sometimes, at times. There have only been a couple times, under extreme pressure/stress where I've lost track of time. So pretty sure, I don't have it. That has to be tricky to deal with!
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Angelwarfare Thank you for being one of those who don't invalidate someone else's mental disorders. We need people like you in this world. ❤️

It's tricky but then again, which mental disorders aren't?
@Queendragonfly Oh, my pleasure and thank you! <3 I hate when people do stuff like that to me, so I'd never want to do that to anyone else. Very true about mental disorders, it makes everything in life way harder! Especially ones like what you're dealing with.
SnailTeeth · 36-40
It's common enough for absurdism to grow into resentful nihilism. As the world keeps spinning, but things stay the same. You keep reliving the same day, hoping for change, and nothing changes.

Deep down inside have I changed? Probably not. You can rebuild the entire house, but a foundation is a foundation.

So I think innately, the way we develop determines our outcome. Fundamentally, there are limitations we cannot change. Patterns of our parents we fell into, and only later realised. Most of our fates are determined by genetics, before we even take our first breath.
@SnailTeeth Which you've presented nothing of, expecting me to take your word for it. That's one thing about true inner confidence, you know what you know and no one can gaslight you. I know my experience and no man on the internet is going to invalidate what I absolutely know to be true. Tired of the BS - wont work on me. goodnight or be blocked.
SnailTeeth · 36-40
@Angelwarfare I didn't gaslight you, I said you were possibly exceptional. I simply stated you were arguing against statistics. Those are both objectively true statements, based on the data I was given. You're acting indignant, but I don't see any justification for your behavior beyond your irrational emotional state. Sleep probably would be best.
@SnailTeeth You are asking me to just take your word that are some studies, done somewhere, disproving my lived experience. I mistakenly complimented your intelligence which probably emboldened you in your arrogance. You're offended and emotional which is why you've projected all that other garbage onto me.
SW-User
Absolutely, the way I feel the way I think are different now.
@SW-User In a good way, I hope.
Isthisit · F
Yes i definitely has. I was way different on experience project i was much younger and at a completely different place in life. Thinking back on it now i think my young age (mid twenties) and the fact i was quite attractive back then made me quite a few friends on there.
Im much more relaxed now and have more experience.
WanderlustCat · 36-40, M
I dont feel like ive changed much since I was a kid. I have more responsibilities but at the same time im still that awkward little kid inside.
WanderlustCat · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare i just never fit in. What do I say what do i do with my hands where do i look.
@WanderlustCat lol cute

I sometimes trip on my words, especially if the person isn't friendly and I feel uncomfortable. I tend to speed up my speech and then I even don't know what tf I am talking about at that point. 😄
WanderlustCat · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare i hate that lol. Like the words are in my head i lnow what i want to say but it wont come out and now i look stupid.
Magnolia21 · 22-25, F
No, just have more freedom since I've been on my own. Things aren't as doom and gloom as people paint it, and I've learned that the people that tell you repeatedly that they're "the good guys" while others are "evil" tend to be the bad ones.
@Magnolia21 For me, I always say I don't like nice people because they're fake. Give me real, over nice, any day of the week. Kindness is different.
ravenhill · M
sure , my life has been very problematic, i've had a lot of problems...but certainly in the last 10 years i've matured and all the improvements which have been made have been done through my own efforts, so i feel very pleased and proud about that.
@ravenhill That's truly wonderful, I'm really happy for you. Makes you feel you can do anything when you can master, or at least control, your inner world!
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I know I have changed in terms of becoming older and wiser. But at my core, I'm the same as I've always been. Drawn to the same types of music, movies, art, etc. I was weird back then and I'm weird now. 🤷🏻‍♀️
@DearAmbellina2113 Weird is great. 😄
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
I admit that I've changed a fair bit. With each passing moment, I've grown smarter, stronger, wiser, wittier, and if I may say so, very charming and handsome.
@Sidewinder ... and more modest of course. 😂
Sidewinder · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare But of course.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
No, I barely changed in some aspects at all. I dropped some bad habits, maybe gained some new...but that's about it. My appearance changed though.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
I've changed a lot since I was a teenager and early 20's.
@JimboSaturn In a good way?
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@Angelwarfare Hopefully yes! Basically for the better in everyway. I guess when I was younger and less confident and happy with myself, I was more rude , selfish, arrogant etc...
@JimboSaturn Yes, that's the way a lot of people are, I think. I was definitely like that for a long time too. I'd lash out at everyone (it's also the way my mom is). Now, I am more self-aware, happier with myself and more confident, like you. I needed to let a lot of negativity go from my past. I was a scapegoated child in a narcissistic family, so I was terribly abused. It took a very long time to understand that I wasn't a terrible person, born bad as my mom and brother wanted me to feel. It's amazing that when you can pinpoint a problem, you can completely transform everything about yourself.
I am pretty much unrecognizable, at least on the surface.

Under the surface… I’m working on it.
@nebulouslyyours

Did you lose or gain weight? Get buff? Or do you mean surface in demeanor to others?
originnone · 61-69, M
I was on EP also...and haven't changed a bit....still miserable....
@originnone I'm sorry you're miserable. What's causing your misery or are you joking? lol
originnone · 61-69, M
@Angelwarfare I have been depressed my whole life and an now turning 60...
@originnone Maybe we can help each other. I was a very depressed little girl due to unbelievable trauma from abuse. It took me a very long time to sort it out. I'm not completely there but I've come a long way.
akindheart · 61-69, F
yes i changed a lot.
@akindheart Yes, there are many manipulative, deceptive people out there. I was extremely unhappy in those years and was always looking for friends. I met a couple guys there that turned out to be important to me. One turned out to be one of the craziest people I've ever come across (some people made a popular video about how creepy he was ), the other became a good friend. Very special to me although we don't keep in touch. So, I guess there are both out there. I don't trust anyone online though.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Angelwarfare sad to say, I am at that point too. I have met lots of people from EP in real life and the women were as bad as the men. curious to know who was creepy on EP...
@akindheart Can I send you a message? I'd rather not make it public.
ArtieKat · M
I think I'm just the same as I was on EP - except 6 or 7 years older! 🤣
@ArtieKat 😄 Somehow it doesn't feel like 7 years! 😵‍ Wow.
ArtieKat · M
@Angelwarfare I know! I had to work it out on my fingers lol
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
Leaning more towards god everyday because the world seems to be turning more evil
@MURD3RM0NK3Y That's healthy. This world is so messed up, we all need some peace in the chaos. I'm pretty sure most people are either depressed or anxious. It is only through higher thoughts that we can gain peace. Distractions/copes don't work for long and are often unhealthy and unproductive.
SW-User
Not much to me except becoming jaded
@SW-User Why jaded?
ABCDEF7 · M
Yes, now I don't try to make friends.
@ABCDEF7 I'm pretty much the same really.
more single than I am at this point.
SW-User
@SW-User I remember your username. It's very unique. 😁
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