Do you feel you've changed a lot in life?
I used to be on Experience Project and thinking back to those days, I realize how different I was then. Completely different. How about you? Have you changed much in the last 5 years or so? How so?
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SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
It's common enough for absurdism to grow into resentful nihilism. As the world keeps spinning, but things stay the same. You keep reliving the same day, hoping for change, and nothing changes.
Deep down inside have I changed? Probably not. You can rebuild the entire house, but a foundation is a foundation.
So I think innately, the way we develop determines our outcome. Fundamentally, there are limitations we cannot change. Patterns of our parents we fell into, and only later realised. Most of our fates are determined by genetics, before we even take our first breath.
Deep down inside have I changed? Probably not. You can rebuild the entire house, but a foundation is a foundation.
So I think innately, the way we develop determines our outcome. Fundamentally, there are limitations we cannot change. Patterns of our parents we fell into, and only later realised. Most of our fates are determined by genetics, before we even take our first breath.
@SnailTeeth I appreciate your intelligence but I respectfully disagree. I've changed dramatically so I know it's very possible. I grew up with a mother that used to play me against my brother in a demented, manipulative way. She and my brother both have NPD, constantly put me down etc. I used to think I was this rotten person and I'd take the blame for everything. I felt deeply insecure, unworthy, awful about myself. Then I discovered what it was, that it was abuse but that abuse also resulted in some positive things in me - empathy, selflessness, etc. I used to be very over-reactive (still am sometimes) because my mom is but I've overcome it in many ways. I think it's my new found confidence in knowing I'm not some monster to be blamed for everything under the sun that solidified my inner core of knowing what is true and what isn't. I had to be strong within because no one else was ever strong for me, no one cared enough to ask why I was depressed, no one cared about me being molested by an adult (as a small child).
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare Individual confidence has been clinically proven to be unwavering. People with low confidence, can't actually become more confident. They can adopt habits to present themselves as confident, and vice versa. It is one example of an innate foundational human trait that will never change.
If you have a severe stroke tomorrow, and you're stripped down to your core elements. Arguably, one might say you've changed. Fundamentally, there might be traumatic damage.There's always a foundation of genetics that we presently cannot alter. Self-improvement is a shell-game to distract us from existential dread. Essentially, we're all oxidising and decomposing at various rates. but fundamentally we're presently incapable of change.
If you have a severe stroke tomorrow, and you're stripped down to your core elements. Arguably, one might say you've changed. Fundamentally, there might be traumatic damage.There's always a foundation of genetics that we presently cannot alter. Self-improvement is a shell-game to distract us from existential dread. Essentially, we're all oxidising and decomposing at various rates. but fundamentally we're presently incapable of change.
@SnailTeeth
"People with low confidence, can't actually become more confident"
Completely disagree. This is my lived experience, so I know.
"People with low confidence, can't actually become more confident"
Completely disagree. This is my lived experience, so I know.
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare You're entitled to your opinion, but you're literally arguing against clinical research. Maybe you're just exceptional.
@SnailTeeth
I don't care about 'established research' and I don't believe everything I'm told. I'm sure there are opposing views and studies that show the opposite as well. It's not set in stone, science never is and I know my own experience well (I've seen it in others too). I'm not exceptional, I've just done the very hard work needed to achieve confidence. When I say I've been through absolute hell, I mean it. I've done the internal work that many people refuse to do. I am now enjoying the rewards of that work.
I don't care about 'established research' and I don't believe everything I'm told. I'm sure there are opposing views and studies that show the opposite as well. It's not set in stone, science never is and I know my own experience well (I've seen it in others too). I'm not exceptional, I've just done the very hard work needed to achieve confidence. When I say I've been through absolute hell, I mean it. I've done the internal work that many people refuse to do. I am now enjoying the rewards of that work.
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare It's not about believing, it's just simple objective statistics. It's fine if you don't want to agree, that's why there's research. General consensus sets the standard.
@SnailTeeth Which you've presented nothing of, expecting me to take your word for it. That's one thing about true inner confidence, you know what you know and no one can gaslight you. I know my experience and no man on the internet is going to invalidate what I absolutely know to be true. Tired of the BS - wont work on me. goodnight or be blocked.
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Angelwarfare I didn't gaslight you, I said you were possibly exceptional. I simply stated you were arguing against statistics. Those are both objectively true statements, based on the data I was given. You're acting indignant, but I don't see any justification for your behavior beyond your irrational emotional state. Sleep probably would be best.
@SnailTeeth You are asking me to just take your word that are some studies, done somewhere, disproving my lived experience. I mistakenly complimented your intelligence which probably emboldened you in your arrogance. You're offended and emotional which is why you've projected all that other garbage onto me.