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Do you think a lot of people now choose to be single?

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F Best Comment
Yes.

I love my bf dearly but I'll admit my life would be more manageable if it were just me I had to worry about. But then I would miss him. So I just take the bad with the good and accept that this is just part of life- dealing with the more undesirable traits of others.

PatKirby · M
Works for me, I chose happiness over coming home to misery daily long ago. "It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a nagging spouse in a nice home." (Prov 21:9)
TexChik · F
Either that or their lifestyle is such that they haven't found a compatible partner. They used to be referred to as confirmed bachelors or spinsters, depending on the gender. Choosing the right spouse is the most important decision people make, and sometimes it goes wrong. And its a lot of work to keep a marriage in proper working order. More it seems than many are willing to do. Then again others did marry, had a horrible experience and never want to do it again. I also believe the online experience has damaged how people get together and makes being nearly perfect very important, and as we all know, nobody is perfect.
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
I do and I'm sure a lot of others do as well
I do. I was married and divorced.
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Ferric67 · M
@geoam1 less drama for sure
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
Yes.It is a deliberate decision as men are terrified of divorce courts.The best way to never deal with a divorce, alimony,dividing of assets is to never get married.Femenisn can be a disaster for both women and relationships.
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
@CestManan You have it right.I'm pretty sure the same rules apply to same sex marriages.The high earners are scared of having courts take away from them what they have worked for to give it to their ex partner that has not worked for it.It's a similar situation for child support.A guaranteed way not to pay it is don't have children.The birth rate has tumbled.For a country's government it's a big problem.Today's children are tomorrow's taxpayers and there will be less of them.
CestManan · 46-50, F
@tallpowerhouseblonde I'd like to go off on a tangent but it seems like birth rates go up and down. For example, right now we have the Baby Boomers Generation X millennials and generation z. Generation Alpha is still really young but the point is of the adult generations, x is the smallest. Yes, there are more Boomers than xers
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
@CestManan It's true that birth rate moves up and down but over time the rate is down.The rate of decline has been described as "jaw dropping." Reasons given as well as not wanting to pay child support include the rising costs of looking after children and more women that have jobs, giving priority to a career over having children.
Torsten · 36-40, M
I sure as hell do and I would bet so many more people do it nowadays also
Fairydust · F
At the moment for me yes.
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
No I think they claim they chose to be single, so yet don’t have to face the realities.
@WintaTheAngle [quote] There’s a percentage of them who would rather say “I chose this” then address something about them that makes them entirely incompatible to most people. For others it’s different. But for some the lie is easier to tell them to address whatever the issue is.[/quote]

How is it a [b]lie[/b] to say you "chose” to be single, if you are in fact [b]choosing[/b] not to address whatever makes you incompatible with others ? Not facing the issues one knows they have would be a conscious choice, wouldn’t it ? 🤔
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
@bijouxbroussard Oh bloody hell, SW’s perpetually outraged hall monitor has turned up…
@WintaTheAngle Sorry, I was just asking the question.
I’m not outraged about anything here. I was curious about the perspective you presented.
AltDel777 · 36-40
It’s been helpful, you get to chill how you want no worry about answering to anyone.
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
Certainly a lot of people have chosen my singledom
BitterSweetPotato · 31-35, F
I don't think I "chose" to be single.. It is not like I met someone who I could connect with and let them go without a reason because I wanted to be single. And I don't even think I have that high threshold for that someone, I just really haven't met them, and did not actively look for them.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Yes, it's convenient for many.
SW-User
If they’re sensible
Yes, almost married twice, listen to those, know some of the things I lived through were much less than those who were married... Eg, we understood something together that could have lasted a life time but didn't need it to last that long. :)
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Probably. There’s no survival necessity for it like there used to be. Granted, marriage rates have dropped a little over recent years, but not by much, so a lot of people are still marrying or cohabitating.
DeeBee · M
helenS · 36-40, F
I think the majority of people still consider marriage to be some sort of safe haven, and they prefer safety to freedom.
People are less ready to compromise, I guess. But it looks like when men get divorced, they are eager to find a new partner.
Elessar · 26-30, M
In order:

Relationship without kids > Single >> Marriage >>>>>>>>>>>> Marriage with kids
Adstar · 56-60, M
Yep... in the western world more and more are deciding to remain single..
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I think the love of a partner would be an obvious first choice.
llloydfred · 56-60, M
Yup, There is too-much garbage out there especially on Mondays,
Yes - for all sorts of reasons.
TheCoolestCat · 31-35, M
sex is over rated anyway lol
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
I think so.
Wiseacre · F
Idk...I chose it!
Elanor · F
Yes they do

The same as someone who chooses to love romance and commitment.

Different hats, for different cats
@Elanor I fail to understand why people insist on being disdainful of the choices of others. Vive la différence!
Possibly, yes. There’s less impetus socially to be married now and considering how many divorce, too much work involved in "uncoupling" from a legal contract.
lumberjackslam · 41-45, M
yes but also some people don't choose it
SW-User
For me, it's just a matter of not caring anymore.
I don't care to look perfect to attract a man and I don't care to compete with others to earn a second look.
Other than that... I've learned I won't die without a man to share my life.
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SW-User
@RogueLoner You've said it well.
Too many aren't looking for love...they're looking for someone sexy online or off, someone picture perfect... most don't look for anything beyond surface when first meeting.
SW-User
I'd love to find an honest female my age, sadly they are very rare now days
Ferric67 · M
@SW-User I'll just accept not being crazy
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I think they do

 
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