I didn't like private messages because some people would be very into you and then ghost you, and it felt like a total waste of time

Honestly, you just can’t take it personally. Someone I’d just seen around who had never spoken reached out via pm, but stopped when he realized that I’m a senior. I don’t post my age to avoid being targeted, but it’s no secret and I discuss it often. I’m not here looking for a date—which I also make clear. I have made long term friends here and I enjoy talking with them via pm.

I find it worth the occasional disappointment, which is just like offline friendships, isn’t it ? But of course it’s a personal choice.

I’ve had mixed experiences with private messaging . Don’t consider it a waste of time because I’ve learned from it but don’t really engage in it much anymore. Brought me down some paths I’d rather not travel again.

I agree to an extent. Id rather click with someone and chat privately about whatever, and not have everyone weigh-in.

Hate the ghosting part, but I still roll the dice on that.

Can respect that know how you feel

You can say that about the real world also. Most people will just drain you but you got to make friends.

You make a very valid point.

Not everyone is like that.. but some for sure

Investing is always a gamble. Yes, you can win, you can lose, or you can break even. If you never take the chance, you'll never know what you may have missed or passed up.

I come from a time where online romance was just kinda pathetic.. I hold onto that sentiment

Well, continue to be alone.