I didn't like private messages because some people would be very into you and then ghost you, and it felt like a total waste of time

Honestly, you just can’t take it personally. Someone I’d just seen around who had never spoken reached out via pm, but stopped when he realized that I’m a senior. I don’t post my age to avoid being targeted, but it’s no secret and I discuss it often. I’m not here looking for a date—which I also make clear. I have made long term friends here and I enjoy talking with them via pm.

I find it worth the occasional disappointment, which is just like offline friendships, isn’t it ? But of course it’s a personal choice.

It’s worth the risk, even if you get hurt.
There are some lovely people on here. And you learn about their experiences, how they cope, you become richer for that,

But the priorities of the real world might take over and you may lose them.

I do not think it is a waste of time if the connection is real and valid. But when I get the fetish minded or people that are only into me because of my profile pic and they cannot and will not read peoples about me sections then yes, a huge waste of time and effort.

But I have met a few really great people here I will chat with in PM's.

I’ve had mixed experiences with private messaging . Don’t consider it a waste of time because I’ve learned from it but don’t really engage in it much anymore. Brought me down some paths I’d rather not travel again.

So true have felt the same

You feel connected as friends,


Waiting for them to be online


And when they are online they don't message back 😔

I agree to an extent. Id rather click with someone and chat privately about whatever, and not have everyone weigh-in.

Hate the ghosting part, but I still roll the dice on that.

Can respect that know how you feel

Not many are into me which is fine.

I look.for people who are consistent and have the ability to.carry out conversations on various levels/ topics.

I only interact with a few and I am very specific to who I want to send my message.

You can say that about the real world also. Most people will just drain you but you got to make friends.

You make a very valid point.

Not everyone is like that.. but some for sure

If you want to test if someone really likes you or not, ask them to buy you a drink. If they buy you anything other than a rootbeer, they really don’t care about you…

Investing is always a gamble. Yes, you can win, you can lose, or you can break even. If you never take the chance, you'll never know what you may have missed or passed up.

I completely agree.

I come from a time where online romance was just kinda pathetic.. I hold onto that sentiment

Well, continue to be alone.