I didn't like private messages because some people would be very into you and then ghost you, and it felt like a total waste of time

I think it's a terrible idea to invest oneself here.. Or online. Or maybe anywhere really.
Well depends with who, but for the most part isn't a good idea I think

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bijouxbroussard · F

Honestly, you just can’t take it personally. Someone I’d just seen around who had never spoken reached out via pm, but stopped when he realized that I’m a senior. I don’t post my age to avoid being targeted, but it’s no secret and I discuss it often. I’m not here looking for a date—which I also make clear. I have made long term friends here and I enjoy talking with them via pm.

I find it worth the occasional disappointment, which is just like offline friendships, isn’t it ? But of course it’s a personal choice.

Lovebird

@bijouxbroussard I care because I enjoy genuine connections, not fickle stuff, thats why I don't invest myself anymore talking with people that simply don't care and just want distractions and feel happier focusing on other things that make me feel better.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Lovebird Well, as I said, it’s a personal choice. You’re not obligated to do anything you don’t want to.

RohitKhanna · 41-45, M

@Lovebird biggest issue online is finding genuine people

And when you think they are real and you have shared a lot

They disappear for you while being still online

Lovebird

@RohitKhanna that's why lately when I start noticing that I walk away before ☹.

RohitKhanna · 41-45, M

@Lovebird no point in being vulnerable